Two Strategies to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
When guys get dumped, one of the first things they do is start planning about all the things they can do to get their ex-girlfriend back.
They start writing long, apology emails, start plotting to buy gifts, or try to catch them in person.
This strategy rarely works, because unless it's a case where something specific happened, you may not know the real reason your ex-girlfriend left in the first place.
Making it worse, your ex-girlfriend might not even know the full reason why she left.
So stop wasting energy and emotion trying to figure it out.
Instead, if you really are trying to win back your ex-girlfriend, consider following one of these strategies for winning her back.
The first strategy is to try to forget about her.
Well, maybe not forget, you do want to win her back, but you want to give her space and time, while you work on your own relationship skills.
Give yourself a month or three to become better at attracting, interesting, and keeping a partner.
Try this multiple times, and don't be afraid to fail.
You aren't really looking for a new love, you're looking for practice for your old one.
What this does is change the way you understand how relationships work.
After a few months of doing this, you'll gain some clarity around your ex-girlfriend, and how important she was to you.
If you still can't live without her, then you now have a whole new set of skills and outlooks to try to win her back.
You'll be able to make her see you differently, because you are different.
Had you tried to rekindle the same romance you had -- the one that failed -- you'd wind up in the same spot.
Now, if you try, you are a different person, and can have a different union.
If that strategy seems to hard, or too long, there is a more direct route.
You can still focus on getting your ex-girlfriend back, but you can set your mind to strategy one, above.
Don't be desperate or clingy, don't beg her to reconsider, or any of that.
Continue to try to gain her interest, but set your mind differently.
Remember, you don't want the same relationship that you just left.
If you don't change anything, the end result will be the same.
They start writing long, apology emails, start plotting to buy gifts, or try to catch them in person.
This strategy rarely works, because unless it's a case where something specific happened, you may not know the real reason your ex-girlfriend left in the first place.
Making it worse, your ex-girlfriend might not even know the full reason why she left.
So stop wasting energy and emotion trying to figure it out.
Instead, if you really are trying to win back your ex-girlfriend, consider following one of these strategies for winning her back.
The first strategy is to try to forget about her.
Well, maybe not forget, you do want to win her back, but you want to give her space and time, while you work on your own relationship skills.
Give yourself a month or three to become better at attracting, interesting, and keeping a partner.
Try this multiple times, and don't be afraid to fail.
You aren't really looking for a new love, you're looking for practice for your old one.
What this does is change the way you understand how relationships work.
After a few months of doing this, you'll gain some clarity around your ex-girlfriend, and how important she was to you.
If you still can't live without her, then you now have a whole new set of skills and outlooks to try to win her back.
You'll be able to make her see you differently, because you are different.
Had you tried to rekindle the same romance you had -- the one that failed -- you'd wind up in the same spot.
Now, if you try, you are a different person, and can have a different union.
If that strategy seems to hard, or too long, there is a more direct route.
You can still focus on getting your ex-girlfriend back, but you can set your mind to strategy one, above.
Don't be desperate or clingy, don't beg her to reconsider, or any of that.
Continue to try to gain her interest, but set your mind differently.
Remember, you don't want the same relationship that you just left.
If you don't change anything, the end result will be the same.
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