He Broke Up With Me and Wants to Be Friends - Why This is the Key to Getting Him Back
"He broke up with me and wants to be friends, but I want more.
" Hearing a woman say this is heart breaking.
The man she loves no longer wants to be romantically involved with her.
All he wants is to be her friend.
How can you do that? How can you go from wanting a future with the man you love to settle on being just a friend? You can.
If you truly want another chance with him and if you're determined to become his girlfriend again, embrace the chance to be his friend.
Although it may feel as though you're agreeing to something you don't really want, you should be viewing the friendship as a stepping stone to more.
One of the best ways to get an ex boyfriend to fall back in love with you is to become his platonic, supportive and trustworthy friend.
Once we've had a taste of being in love with a man it's challenging to shift the relationship back into a place where romance doesn't exist.
Instead of seeing the value of having him remain a presence in your life you may focus on all the aspects of the dynamic that have changed.
You two are no longer intimate, you don't share the same passions and you aren't planning a future together.
However, instead of looking at his desire to be friends from a negative point of view, you need to see the promise in it.
Try and consider the fact that the majority of men, after a break up with a woman, want absolutely nothing to do with her.
If he has suggested he wants to remain connected as friends that means your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you.
Being his friend now will lay the groundwork for more in the future.
You do need to be wary of how much of yourself you invest into the friendship though.
A great suggestion is to set boundaries for yourself.
Think of them as rules you need to follow.
Some that are helpful include not meeting him for anything more serious than a cup of coffee.
Also, don't bring up the past or the broken romantic relationship.
Asking about his current dating status also should be on your list of things not to do.
You want to establish a platonic, non-threatening friendship with him so he feels emotionally able to open himself up to you again.
You'll both feel better once you get close again and before you know it the romantic sparks may start to fly again.
" Hearing a woman say this is heart breaking.
The man she loves no longer wants to be romantically involved with her.
All he wants is to be her friend.
How can you do that? How can you go from wanting a future with the man you love to settle on being just a friend? You can.
If you truly want another chance with him and if you're determined to become his girlfriend again, embrace the chance to be his friend.
Although it may feel as though you're agreeing to something you don't really want, you should be viewing the friendship as a stepping stone to more.
One of the best ways to get an ex boyfriend to fall back in love with you is to become his platonic, supportive and trustworthy friend.
Once we've had a taste of being in love with a man it's challenging to shift the relationship back into a place where romance doesn't exist.
Instead of seeing the value of having him remain a presence in your life you may focus on all the aspects of the dynamic that have changed.
You two are no longer intimate, you don't share the same passions and you aren't planning a future together.
However, instead of looking at his desire to be friends from a negative point of view, you need to see the promise in it.
Try and consider the fact that the majority of men, after a break up with a woman, want absolutely nothing to do with her.
If he has suggested he wants to remain connected as friends that means your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you.
Being his friend now will lay the groundwork for more in the future.
You do need to be wary of how much of yourself you invest into the friendship though.
A great suggestion is to set boundaries for yourself.
Think of them as rules you need to follow.
Some that are helpful include not meeting him for anything more serious than a cup of coffee.
Also, don't bring up the past or the broken romantic relationship.
Asking about his current dating status also should be on your list of things not to do.
You want to establish a platonic, non-threatening friendship with him so he feels emotionally able to open himself up to you again.
You'll both feel better once you get close again and before you know it the romantic sparks may start to fly again.
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