Couples get back together every day.
If you're looking to be one of them, the best thing to do is understand what key factors will influence your ex in the direction of making him want you again.
The main one? Making him miss you.
Your exboyfriend won't have the need or desire to reconcile your relationship if he's not missing or thinking about you.
The tricky part? The more you're around him, the less he's going to miss you.
If he's seeing or hearing from you several times a week, that connection never closes.
The biggest step to get back an ex boyfriend is also the hardest: leaving him alone for a while.
Breaking contact with your ex is crucial.
This means you should stop emailing him, sending him text-messages, or calling him on the phone.
And if he happens to contact you? Ignore it for a while.
You're hurting, and you want to hear from him so bad...
but as difficult as it may be to let his messages go unanswered, it's one of the greatest things you can do to throw him off his game.
Understand something: your ex broke up with you, but he still wants to know you need him.
Every guy likes to know he can change his mind...
and get you back on any given day.
When you're hanging around and giving him that extra attention, he knows you're still there.
He knows you'll be ready to come back to him whenever he wants you to.
This seems good, right? It's not.
Because while he feels secure in knowing you're still around, it gives him the courage and freedom to date whomever he wants.
Your ex will continue on with his life and may even meet another girl...
all while you're still trying to keep in touch with him (or worse, trying to be "his friend").
This is a sucker scenario, and you can't allow it to happen.
The key to getting back your exboyfriend is to make him wonder where you are, what you're doing, and who you happen to be with.
You can't do this in plain sight, and this is why you need to vanish.
Your ultimate goal is to make him miss you.
Picture him looking around to see how you're handling the break up, and not finding you.
Asking his friends what you've been up to, and having them shrug.
Looking at his phone, and seeing no calls from you.
Shooting you an email...
and getting no answer.
This is what gets him interested.
This is what puts you in his head.
Once your ex can't find you, he starts thinking the worst.
Maybe you're done with him.
Maybe you really didn't need him as much as he originally thought, or maybe you even met another guy.
Suddenly he's faced with the possibility of you not being around at all anymore, and this is probably something he never really considered.
When that happens, he'll have to make a choice: reaching out for you again, or risk losing you altogether.
On some levels this is actually a way of making your ex jealous...
and you didn't even have to do anything.
Getting back together with an ex boyfriend is all about putting him into this type of mindset.
You're eliminating all of the factors that normally allow him to rest comfortably after your break up.
You're also doing the opposite of what he expects, which will keep him interested in you.
From here you can begin making the next moves along the path to winning him back, and you're in the best possible position to do it.