Learn How to Control Your Anxiety and Your Life
There is a clear difference between objective and subjective knowledge.
However social fear and anxiety blur the boundaries of both; what you see and feel is not necessarily how you should.
Anxiety can effect a whole world of things within your life and how you approach certain situations; eating in public, shopping, playing sports, managing a team at work or how you raise your children can all be affected by anxiety but it does not have to be this way at all.
By understanding what anxiety is, why it happens and how to control it you can boost your confidence and do things you never thought possible, fact.
The reason it can feel like you have lost control of your life is that anxiety is both a psychological and a physiological reaction, this combined can seem over-whelming and uncontrollable creating a spiral of anxiety whenever you are in social situations or environments you find difficult.
Anxiety is caused by your brain interpreting and learning to a release of adrenalin in a situation that has caused you to react somehow.
It is this adrenalin that causes your mind to believe it is in some sort of danger, this can be an irrational reaction however, which leads to irrational thought processes there on as the adrenalin release occurs to circumstances deemed, realistically, as safe or not life threatening.
Every body reacts differently to this adrenalin rush and anxiety manifests itself through many types of reactions: Shaking/trembling, sweating profusely, nausea, panic attack, shortness of breath which leads to a feeling of inferiority, nervousness, feeling self conscious, depression and/or anxiety.
With such negative feelings and reactions it is no wonder that anxiety can control your life and leave you with no confidence.
Avoiding situations that you know or may think will induce a panic attack or a negative reaction is very common but unfortunately it creates an anxiety spiral.
You end up doing things to separate yourself from fearful situations, staying in your 'comfort zone of fear' and trying to control that worry of what others think by; sitting furthest away from a crowds, making excuses to your friends that you can't go out or phoning sick from work when you have a meeting.
This avoidance can lead you to create a 'safety net' such as speaking quietly, holding hands across your mouth or face when speaking, avoiding conflicts or not speaking any opinion, not catching or maintaining eye contact and/or playing or hiding hands to stay away from contact.
The more you hide the more you train your body and mind to react how it does and perpetuates the anxious feelings.
If you can identify a trigger that has ever started this off or a time that you consistently remember that has made your anxiety worse this invokes the thought in your brain and leaves it to stay there and enhance anxiety and maybe even distort the actual chain of events.
Anxiety does not have to control you like this.
As anxiety is a learned reaction it can be unlearned.
It does not have to control your life unless you want it too or let it.
It is so easy to fall into an anxiety spiral and focus on the negatives of a situation that you believe is threatening.
But, if you can change your thought process and association with your environment by actively analysing your situation with a realistic view, which may not have been done before with the blind sight of anxiety you can begin to let the anxiety go.
To do this ask yourself questions such as these and of any you think are necessary or come naturally to gain an insight into yourself whether it is conscious or unconscious: - How do you feel about your life in general? - What do you want to change? - How could you change it? - What is realistically going on around you? - Are you realistically are risk? - What are the real dangers? - How dedicated are you? - Who is there to support you? The dangers that are perceived and cause anxiety are perceived dangers not realistic ones which means a true analysis of your surroundings should be done to gain a perspective and change long term thoughts as you have conditioned your subconscious to believe being in a social situation is intimidating.
This takes over your thoughts and real perception of what is going on.
therefore, your negative thoughts about certain scenarios give your body the instructions of how to react, meaning anxious traits.
But, by changing the way you look at the world; objectively rather than subjectively you can unlock a confidence that comes from realism.
If you go into a social situation and believe that people will laugh at you for buying that item in the shop for example then that's what the brain will perceive will happen and your body will react accordingly.
However, just by taking a step back and thinking to yourself that the item on the shelf is there to be bought, others must and will buy it, you need it, why would others laugh and they probably won't even notice anyway you can retrain your mind into thinking the realistic views and control your anxiety.
Some of our anxiety is learnt from our childhood and enhanced by experiences when we are older.
At one point we were all carefree and if we wanted to do something we would always try.
But, as we grow and our surroundings influence our decisions and experience teaches us certain things our inhibitions change and increase due to socialisation.
We are taught to please others and that rejection is bad, unfortunately this is taken more seriously by others and certain events in our lives increase our awareness of it and start the anxiety circle as we worry what others think about us in a heightened and unhealthy way.
Really look at yourself and why you think and do the things you do.
Question it and everyone around you; why, what, how and when? Can you change these thoughts? Answer honestly and you can control it.
It isn't easy but it can be done once you realise how you feel and that it isn't real.
Answer the question of how you want to feel and how you can achieve it.
After doing this, face your fears.
Facing your fears has to be done in the right way though.
Do not feel you have to do it all at once, it can be done gradually and each time question how you are feeling and what is really going on around you.
Realise you can take rejection, failure or judgement but also realise that this is so unlikely to happen on a day to day basis that it is irrational for you to believe you are in harms way.
The more confidence you get the more adept you will become in learning that you can control your life and it should not control you.
Use CBT and NLP techniques to aid your approach in controlling techniques to beat anxiety which will help you visualise confidence, give you a positive spin on your perceptions and monitor your progress.
Anxiety can't and won't rule you if you choose a positive life.
Decide to make changes and put it into action, not tomorrow but now.
Stop that worry in its tracks, ignore what you think people are thinking about you, get rid of negativity, do what you want to do and lead that life you have always wanted.
However social fear and anxiety blur the boundaries of both; what you see and feel is not necessarily how you should.
Anxiety can effect a whole world of things within your life and how you approach certain situations; eating in public, shopping, playing sports, managing a team at work or how you raise your children can all be affected by anxiety but it does not have to be this way at all.
By understanding what anxiety is, why it happens and how to control it you can boost your confidence and do things you never thought possible, fact.
The reason it can feel like you have lost control of your life is that anxiety is both a psychological and a physiological reaction, this combined can seem over-whelming and uncontrollable creating a spiral of anxiety whenever you are in social situations or environments you find difficult.
Anxiety is caused by your brain interpreting and learning to a release of adrenalin in a situation that has caused you to react somehow.
It is this adrenalin that causes your mind to believe it is in some sort of danger, this can be an irrational reaction however, which leads to irrational thought processes there on as the adrenalin release occurs to circumstances deemed, realistically, as safe or not life threatening.
Every body reacts differently to this adrenalin rush and anxiety manifests itself through many types of reactions: Shaking/trembling, sweating profusely, nausea, panic attack, shortness of breath which leads to a feeling of inferiority, nervousness, feeling self conscious, depression and/or anxiety.
With such negative feelings and reactions it is no wonder that anxiety can control your life and leave you with no confidence.
Avoiding situations that you know or may think will induce a panic attack or a negative reaction is very common but unfortunately it creates an anxiety spiral.
You end up doing things to separate yourself from fearful situations, staying in your 'comfort zone of fear' and trying to control that worry of what others think by; sitting furthest away from a crowds, making excuses to your friends that you can't go out or phoning sick from work when you have a meeting.
This avoidance can lead you to create a 'safety net' such as speaking quietly, holding hands across your mouth or face when speaking, avoiding conflicts or not speaking any opinion, not catching or maintaining eye contact and/or playing or hiding hands to stay away from contact.
The more you hide the more you train your body and mind to react how it does and perpetuates the anxious feelings.
If you can identify a trigger that has ever started this off or a time that you consistently remember that has made your anxiety worse this invokes the thought in your brain and leaves it to stay there and enhance anxiety and maybe even distort the actual chain of events.
Anxiety does not have to control you like this.
As anxiety is a learned reaction it can be unlearned.
It does not have to control your life unless you want it too or let it.
It is so easy to fall into an anxiety spiral and focus on the negatives of a situation that you believe is threatening.
But, if you can change your thought process and association with your environment by actively analysing your situation with a realistic view, which may not have been done before with the blind sight of anxiety you can begin to let the anxiety go.
To do this ask yourself questions such as these and of any you think are necessary or come naturally to gain an insight into yourself whether it is conscious or unconscious: - How do you feel about your life in general? - What do you want to change? - How could you change it? - What is realistically going on around you? - Are you realistically are risk? - What are the real dangers? - How dedicated are you? - Who is there to support you? The dangers that are perceived and cause anxiety are perceived dangers not realistic ones which means a true analysis of your surroundings should be done to gain a perspective and change long term thoughts as you have conditioned your subconscious to believe being in a social situation is intimidating.
This takes over your thoughts and real perception of what is going on.
therefore, your negative thoughts about certain scenarios give your body the instructions of how to react, meaning anxious traits.
But, by changing the way you look at the world; objectively rather than subjectively you can unlock a confidence that comes from realism.
If you go into a social situation and believe that people will laugh at you for buying that item in the shop for example then that's what the brain will perceive will happen and your body will react accordingly.
However, just by taking a step back and thinking to yourself that the item on the shelf is there to be bought, others must and will buy it, you need it, why would others laugh and they probably won't even notice anyway you can retrain your mind into thinking the realistic views and control your anxiety.
Some of our anxiety is learnt from our childhood and enhanced by experiences when we are older.
At one point we were all carefree and if we wanted to do something we would always try.
But, as we grow and our surroundings influence our decisions and experience teaches us certain things our inhibitions change and increase due to socialisation.
We are taught to please others and that rejection is bad, unfortunately this is taken more seriously by others and certain events in our lives increase our awareness of it and start the anxiety circle as we worry what others think about us in a heightened and unhealthy way.
Really look at yourself and why you think and do the things you do.
Question it and everyone around you; why, what, how and when? Can you change these thoughts? Answer honestly and you can control it.
It isn't easy but it can be done once you realise how you feel and that it isn't real.
Answer the question of how you want to feel and how you can achieve it.
After doing this, face your fears.
Facing your fears has to be done in the right way though.
Do not feel you have to do it all at once, it can be done gradually and each time question how you are feeling and what is really going on around you.
Realise you can take rejection, failure or judgement but also realise that this is so unlikely to happen on a day to day basis that it is irrational for you to believe you are in harms way.
The more confidence you get the more adept you will become in learning that you can control your life and it should not control you.
Use CBT and NLP techniques to aid your approach in controlling techniques to beat anxiety which will help you visualise confidence, give you a positive spin on your perceptions and monitor your progress.
Anxiety can't and won't rule you if you choose a positive life.
Decide to make changes and put it into action, not tomorrow but now.
Stop that worry in its tracks, ignore what you think people are thinking about you, get rid of negativity, do what you want to do and lead that life you have always wanted.
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