The websites and magazines devoted to advice on how to get an ex back are endless.
Add into the mix all of the books dedicated to this subject, and it is easy to get lost in a sea of confusion.
Most people do not want to spend the time reading thousands of pages.
They want the love of their life back right away.
While it is not possible to win an ex back over night in every situation, there are a couple basic tips that will help you move past the pain quicker.
First of all, spare the drama! The emotional pain of a break up often leads people to behaving childishly, and sometimes acting as if they do not care at all about losing the relationship.
It is difficult to let someone see that you are hurting, especially if they are the cause of your pain.
If you think making them believe you don't care at all will make them want you more, you will be disappointed in most situations.
While you do not want to drop on your knees and cry your eyes out every time you see your ex, putting on a show or flaunting other mates in their face to create jealousy is just a lot of drama that usually does not help get an ex back.
Second, think beyond yourself! In order to get an ex back you need to put harsh feelings aside and consider what your ex really wants.
Is she looking for a committed relationship leading to marriage? Is he looking for a little more freedom and not wanting to be tied to you every day? It is very difficult to get an ex back if you can't offer what they are after.
Trying to trick your ex into wanting you back rarely works.
It takes a little thought and effort to find out exactly what they want and then evaluate whether you can do that for them or not.
It helps to know exactly what you want out of the relationship as well.