There may come a point in time that you realize your relationship has lost its luster. It might happen over a period of months or it might happen quite suddenly. Either way the end result is the same, you feel as though you have failed somehow. But you need to understand that all is not lost.

This is true regardless of the situation. In fact, in over ninety percent of break ups people that work at getting back together find that a make up is possible. To motivate you even further, consider couples that are separated due to circumstances out of their control. This could be prison time, active duty, or work related situations. In almost every case those separations do not end in a true break up.

If you are feeling that things are starting to slip away and you are worried that they may go too far if you do not do something, then you are probably right. The good news is that you can take a stand and take positive action.

Depending on the circumstances you may want to start working on solutions that you can do yourself. Or you may need to involve your partner. My suggestion is that you at least talk with your partner about how you are feeling. Let him or her know that you are concerned about the way things are going.

This will allow for an open discussion. You may find that you are jumping to conclusions or on the other hand you should be prepared to hear things that are less than pleasant. The good news is that in most cases your partner is feeling the same things you are. He or she is feeling that the freshness of your relationship needs to be revived and he/she would be happy to work on it.

If this is the case then your work is going to be much easier than if you have to go it alone. The two of you can decide on things that will rejuvenate your love and fun. I usually suggest that you begin by doing things together that you both enjoy. I understand that life and the responsibilities of daily living take priorities at times and our relationship seems to get lost in the mix.

Now is the time to put your relationship as a priority. You might begin by designating one single night a week as your couple time. That time is only for the two of you. You should plan for it and use it wisely. What you do with that time can be the same from week to week or you can vary from week to week. The important thing is that you spend it together doing something you both enjoy.

Whether you are working out the problems as a team or you are soloing it you will want to get back in touch with what made your relationship special in the beginning. Try to recapture some of that. Perhaps the two of you used to work out together but over time you have given up your gym membership. This is a great time to get back into your fitness regimen. Maybe camping was a common interest but over the years you have given that up for stays in motels. Consider a short camping trip. Those are just examples but I think you get the idea.

Other important steps include a careful evaluation of how you treat your partner and how you are treated. If you are not giving or receiving the respect you deserve then you need to address that. Your partner is supposed to be your best friend and respect should be a part of every friendship.

These simple suggestions can go a long way toward getting back some of that freshness your relationship is missing. Use your imagination and be creative. Do little things to surprise your partner that will be meaningful to him or her. You really can save your relationship!