How to Find and Make Deep Friendships with Other Women in Midlife
- 1). Look for women who share similar interests. As you go about your day, look for other women who you might want to meet. If you don't see anyone in your daily routine, don't hesitate to join a group. Join a knitting club, the PTA or your homeowner's association.
- 2). Strike up a conversation. For example, set up your bike beside the woman in spin class and ask her how she keeps her energy for the rest of the day. Start with a compliment, and then follow up with an open-ended question where she can talk a little about herself. Use the conversation to find out how open she is to meeting new people. If the person doesn't open up, she is sending you signals that she isn't open to building a relationship.
- 3). Find out what other common interests you have. It is hard to build a sustainable relationship over just one common interest. Find out what else the person likes to do. If she has a husband and three children, while you are single and enjoy traveling, you may not have enough common interests to sustain a relationship.
- 4). Put yourself out there. Be vulnerable. Many women have their own families and friends, and simply aren't thinking about inviting anyone new into their circle. She probably thinks you have your own circle of friends. You have to make it clear that you are looking for new friends. It can be a little intimidating, because you face rejection if she is uninterested.
- 5). Make time in your schedule to build a relationship. To build a sustainable relationship, you have to spend face-to-face time with the person. You won't be fast friends after one conversation. You have to spend time together regularly, so that you can get to know each other on a deeper level. You don't have to make a standing appointment with this person, but incorporate her into your life by spending time with her on a weekly or bi-weekly basis.
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