How to Take a Stand Against Verbal Abuse
- 1). Walk away; yelling back can escalate the situation, so always walk away, remaining calm. Do not attempt to fight with the person doing the abusing. Leave the house if necessary.
- 2). Sit down later when you are both in a calm mood, and explain how the verbal abuse makes you feel and how much his words hurt you. Try to make him picture how he would feel if spoken to in the same verbally abusive manner. Keep your voice low, and do not get agitated; this is your chance to have an open, honest talk.
- 3). Give consequences. Tell the abuser that you can no longer tolerate his abuse and that if the abuse continues, there will be ramifications. Consider telling him that you may have to leave if the abuse continues. Whatever you decide, you must stick by it, so that the abuser knows you are serious.
- 4). Seek therapy for the abuser. Perhaps he has issues that make him verbally abusive, or maybe he was abused as a child. Therapy can be beneficial in that he can learn ways to control his abuse and not allow it to escalate.
- 5). Join a support group to meet people in similar situations. The members may be able to give you ideas about how to deal with emotional abuse. The support of the group should encourage you to make the necessary changes to stop the verbal abuse before it escalates.
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