Alfred Lord Tennyson, a celebrated British poet, once said, "'Its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
" If what Lord Tennyson said is true, then why is losing love so bitter and painful? Psychologically, losing love does not only mean the loss of a relationship.
A separation also means the loss of shared hope and dreams.
Another explanation seen from a scientific point of view is the connection of love and addiction.
In an article she wrote for the Journal of Neurophysiology Helen E.
Fisher, PhD, a biological anthropologist and renowned relationship scientist at Rutgers University, revealed that there is indeed a correlation between romantic love and addiction.
She suggested that rejection (which includes break up) affects the parts of the brain which are associated with reward, depression, craving, and most notably, addiction.
As with other types of addictions, a broken heart can be overcome.
However, it may not be as easy as it sounds.
An amicable break up can be equally as painful as a rough one, especially when you have fully committed yourself to a relationship.
Burying your feelings will not help since it will only delay your sadness.
The only way to cope with the loss of a relationship is by facing it, however painful it may be.
The feelings of depression, anger, denial, guilt, loneliness, frustration, and fear can be more intense if you are trying to deal with a break up all by yourself.
Ask your friends and family to keep you company so that you will not feel so lonely.
If you have just broken up with someone, put away or get rid of the things that remind you of your ex.
If you and your ex shared a house previously, it might be harder for you to forget him or her since every corner of the house seems to hold a memory of the relationship that you once had.
Find sanctuary in your family or friend's place; at least until you can accept the fact that the two of you are no longer together.
Moving out of your apartment and finding a new place to live can also be a faster way to heal your broken heart.
Divert your mind; immerse in your hobby or interests and do the things that will make you feel comfortable and happy.
If you love painting, a painting class can be your one way ticket out of this very depressing situation.
If you are an avid reader, you can buy and read books about anything so that you will know that a relationship is just one of the many aspects of life.
Whatever you do, you have to remember one thing: no matter how bad things are, keep moving on because you still have a future ahead of you.