First off, I want to say I completely understand where you are at right now.
Going through a divorce is tough business and emotionally draining.
However, if you aren't there yet, count yourself lucky.
There are ways you can save your marriage! I'm going to assume that you are already "broken up" so to speak, but the divorce hasn't happened yet.
That is fine! What I am going to do is show you how you can get back together with these ten steps.
1.
First off, you must be willing to accept that your old relationship is over.
Yes, it's over.
We are instead starting a new relationship.
This is key.
There are important reasons why you need to consider this a new relationship, but the biggest has to do with recapturing that love.
Many people assume that you just apologize profusely, then beg and plead.
Or you go see a counselor.
While seeing a counselor can help, most people don't realize that what started the relationship in the first place is also what can save it.
That is excitement, curiosity, and emotional power.
We want to start down that path again.
The remaining tips apply to this.
2.
Start making small positive changes in your own life.
Do something different.
Look different.
Pick up different hobbies.
Study up on your interests.
Become a more interesting person.
I can't tell you how many people have gotten back together just by making small changes.
Why? Because people get curious about it.
These changes also make you more confident and confidence is attractive.
3.
Let go of what he or she did.
You need to apologize for your behavior and let go of whatever bad things they did.
I mean it.
If you focus solely on the negative, all that you will get in life is negative.
So don't do it.
4.
Spend time apart.
A lot of people right before a divorce happens to do this anyway.
This is actually a good thing.
Give yourself two weeks to get your head on straight, spend some time to yourself and make those changes I mentioned earlier.
Then, we strike when the iron is hot and we reenter their life! 5.
Get them to contact you.
Yes, we want them to contact you.
This cool trick involves writing a handwritten letter apologizing for your bad behavior and then mentioning all the great things going on in your life.
(Like in tip number 2) This makes them curious and they will desire to contact you.
Why a handwritten letter? Because who gets handwritten letters anymore? No one! It's so different and far more personal to sit and hold a letter than it is to get an email.
You have the curiosity driving them to open and read it and when they do, you create the desire for them to contact you.
This works extremely well, especially after a two week break.