You want to get your ex back but you have made a serious mistake.
Have you ever accused them of flirting with your friends, your boss, or the woman behind the ice cream counter? We all make mistakes and those mistakes can cost you your relationship.
You can heal the rift though.
What do you need to do to make things right? Start with an apology.
But he may be angry and not want to listen to what you have to say.
If you can't get him to listen, you can write a note.
Now do you know what makes for a good, heartfelt, genuine apology? Well a good apology consists of three parts.
First you must recognize that you have done something wrong.
Second, you must do a little self examination to understand why you have done what you did.
Third and final, you need to make a commitment to yourself and your partner, that you will not do it again.
So, as an example you might say "Jonathan, I was so wrong to accuse you of hitting on the ice cream girl.
I was having a bad day and I was feeling unhappy and insecure.
None of my feelings had anything to do with you; I just snapped and lashed out at you.
I know that I hurt you and I am really sorry.
From now on, I will be much more careful not to take out my frustrations on you.
" Next, take a break and allow your partner time to reflect on your apology.
He may answer right away or he may take some time to think things over.
If it takes an hour or a week, do not contact him.
That means no phone calls, no texts, no emails and not even any social networks.
Do not have your friends call or speak to him either.
Just wait for him to get back to you, He will at some point and this is your chance to make your move.
When he contacts you, no heavy conversation, keep things light.
No talk about missing him, and no more apologies.
Talk about some of the great times that the two of you have shared.
See what his reaction is, if that seems to go well, talk about some of the little things you miss about him, the way his coffee comes out in the morning, how he always gets your shower ready for you.
Then you can suggest a meeting for something that is defiantly not a date; perhaps meet for a fast cup of coffee together.
If he will agree to meet you for coffee, then you will have the chance to discuss some of the things that went wrong.
Now is the time to apologize again and confirm that it was an error that will never be repeated.
You might also talk about how you are missing him in your life and that you really would like to get back together.
Now he has had some time to cool down and you have given him the reasons that you want him back.
You should have little trouble repairing the rift now.