Should You Really Get Back With Your Ex Girlfriend?
So, you've been through a break up and have decided that you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend.
First, are you sure? It happens too often that we are in love with the idea of being in love, instead of actually being in love.
Only you will know for sure, but if you don't want to face more heartbreak then you need to make sure you are pursuing the relationship for the right reasons.
Right now, you may be thinking that you have no doubt that you want to be with her again, but here is something to think about.
You may spend the rest of your life with her if you reconcile.
Not just the next few months, or years, but forever.
Think about it, imagine it.
If you can really see the two of you together, with no one else, then you can consider it a good sign.
Look at the relationship as you think an outsider might see it.
Was there too much senseless arguing? Were you as happy as you think? Did you make a good couple? Again, try to answer these questions as an objective outsider would.
What you find out could be revealing and help you see things from a different point of view.
This isn't inherently good or bad, but will help you make a better choice of whether or not to try to win her back.
That covers the basics of you.
Now, on to her.
Notice how she acts when you are around.
If she still talks to you in a somewhat dignified manner; there is hope.
However, you may find she is ignoring you whenever you happen to be in the same place.
Remember this, ignoring someone is also a reaction.
It takes work to ignore someone, so it could mean she is trying to play hard to get (or hard to get back to be more precise).
You will have to do your best to gauge her reactions and then try to get back together if the signs warrant it.
A bit of straight talk is required here.
Life offers no guarantee of how things will turn out, and the same is true of relationships.
If she is worth it, and you know it's the right thing to do, then go after her.
I wish you much happiness.
But, if it wasn't meant to be, then you need to face the facts and move on.
First, are you sure? It happens too often that we are in love with the idea of being in love, instead of actually being in love.
Only you will know for sure, but if you don't want to face more heartbreak then you need to make sure you are pursuing the relationship for the right reasons.
Right now, you may be thinking that you have no doubt that you want to be with her again, but here is something to think about.
You may spend the rest of your life with her if you reconcile.
Not just the next few months, or years, but forever.
Think about it, imagine it.
If you can really see the two of you together, with no one else, then you can consider it a good sign.
Look at the relationship as you think an outsider might see it.
Was there too much senseless arguing? Were you as happy as you think? Did you make a good couple? Again, try to answer these questions as an objective outsider would.
What you find out could be revealing and help you see things from a different point of view.
This isn't inherently good or bad, but will help you make a better choice of whether or not to try to win her back.
That covers the basics of you.
Now, on to her.
Notice how she acts when you are around.
If she still talks to you in a somewhat dignified manner; there is hope.
However, you may find she is ignoring you whenever you happen to be in the same place.
Remember this, ignoring someone is also a reaction.
It takes work to ignore someone, so it could mean she is trying to play hard to get (or hard to get back to be more precise).
You will have to do your best to gauge her reactions and then try to get back together if the signs warrant it.
A bit of straight talk is required here.
Life offers no guarantee of how things will turn out, and the same is true of relationships.
If she is worth it, and you know it's the right thing to do, then go after her.
I wish you much happiness.
But, if it wasn't meant to be, then you need to face the facts and move on.
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