Getting back together with your girlfriend can be a complicated process for us guys.
If you think your feelings are hurt, you should hear your girlfriend describe her hurt feelings to her friends.
And it may seem that whatever you do or say just makes things worse.
Getting back together with your ex girlfriend doesn't have to be an earth shattering event but does require some thought and focused effort.
Let's begin by trying to understand why you broke up in the first place.
Girls are less likely to break up with guys, than guys are to break up with their girlfriend.
Sorry to say this guys, but 99.
9% of the time it is your fault.
Fixing it means you need to accept this fact.
Once accepted we can move on.
Whether you've determined it was your fault or not doesn't matter.
You need to apologize by restating the wrong, explain how or why it happened to the best of your ability, persuade your girlfriend how you did or will correct the mistake and answer her response truthfully.
Now start the courting process all over again.
I know you did some unusual things to get her in the first place.
So guess what, you've got to do them again only this time better.
It's okay to hang with the guys, talk to other girls and maintain social interactions, but remember your priority.
When she shows signs of softening to your courting activity, drop everything so she knows she's number one.
I don't advocate using jealousy as a tool by going out with other women, but you can do this.
Just know this is dangerous and can easily backfire.
So make sure you're available, but continue to move forward in case it doesn't work out.
Girls don't like it when guys show attention to other girls.
It reminds me of a line from a song that goes something like this: Who's that girl, what's she got and why is she living my life".
The prospect of loss usually outweighs gain.
In other words, we will sacrifice and work harder to keep from losing something versus winning something or someone new.
Guys, we sometimes act like overgrown kids.
Show some maturity in your actions.
Although it's no secret you're moving forward, just make sure she knows all she has to do is say the word and you'll be back into her life.
Girls also value friendship.
Be her friend and confidant.
It's an easy way to get back into her good graces and sooner rather than later, you'll get your ex back.
Building a relaxed caring friendship also helps you get closer again.
She'll remember the good times over the bad, see a side of you not seen before and you'll find yourself spending more time together.
Whatever situation you're in around her, never appear desperate.
If you build the friendship, eventually you'll find the perfect time to talk about the breakup.
This is best done in a relaxed atmosphere.
The dreaded words, "our breakup was for the better" is something to prepare for.
You never know what girls are thinking, let alone why.
On the other hand, you may jump up and down inside when she says she also thinks it was a mistake.
If you get the latter answer, don't put your foot in your mouth.
Acknowledge and accept it.
Later on you can shout to the moon how your deepest desire became true.
The picture I painted above can be used as you project and imagine how things will turn out.
They'll help you keep positive and calculating as you decide to do whatever it takes to get your girl back.