The feeling of helplessness can overcome you when you see your relationship falling apart before your very own eyes.
If you are the one that wants to fight to keep the relationship together, it can be very frustrating when your attempts at reconciliation are being ignored by your ex.
Emotions can often dictate what comes out of our mouths, especially following a break up.
This can cause problems when you are trying to win back ex.
Having a plan and acting in a controlled manor are the keys to be successful.
This plan involves breaking off communication with your ex for a bit.
I know this will be difficult, but trust me, you need to reflect on everything for a few weeks.
Plus, if you've been "harassing" your ex for the last few weeks with emails, text messages and voice mails, your ex will certainly appreciate this as well.
As a matter of fact, it will make your ex stop and think about you as well.
Starting to communicate with your ex again should only be done, once you are in a calm and collected state.
Speaking from your heart and saying things such as, " I miss you so much, and I will do anything to be back together with you", will only make you come off as needy and desperate.
You need to be able to let your ex know that you understand and respect their decision.
By letting your ex know that you are making an effort at working at the things that went wrong is critical.
Just sitting there and begging for their forgiveness simply shows to them that you haven't been listening to anything that they have said to you.
Let them know you are listening.