If you are the only one in the relationship that is trying to get save your relationship, then trying to get back together may seem like fighting a losing battle.
These five steps should help you figure out what it takes to get back together, and should help you be a little more optimistic.
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First of all, you have to be strong if you want to win back your ex.
Your ex won't want to get back together if you are acting needy and desperate, so you have to try to keep your emotions in check.
Desperate behavior may actually drive your ex further away.
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Next, you have to limit contact with your ex.
I know you may want to call, text, email your ex, but that isn't the best idea.
Instead you have to give your ex some alone time to clear his mind and think about how much he misses you.
You can use this time to make a plan for how to get back together.
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Third, you have to be flexible if you want your ex back.
Instead of just focusing on yourself, you have to be willing to consider both sides of the situation.
Be a listener and a sympathizer.
Stay strong, but be willing to help with the situation.
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Fourth, you need to get out and clear your mind.
This isn't a good time to be alone constantly, so get together with your friends.
Emotional support from family and friends is good right now, and you need some entertainment to take your mind off the breakup.
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Last, you have to stay true to yourself.
Be willing to change anything and fix the problems that led to the breakup, but don't stay yourself.
You and your ex used to have a good relationship, so try to be the good person that you are and the person that your ex used to love.
Act natural, and let your history lead to a good relationship again.