Ditch Your Friends Before They Ditch You
"Birds of a feather flock together" isn't just an observation but a self fulfilling prophesy.
There is a saying in Spanish that goes something like this, "Tell me who you hang out with and I'll tell you who you are.
" Are you having difficulty breaking out of the ordinary? Are you struggling to get your footing? Look around and tell me if your friends are in the same predicament.
The answer, 99% of the time, is "Yes, they look just like me.
" At this point most people get defensive and explain how the people around them were their friends all their life, and go one explaining how they got into the position they are.
But the reality remains.
That we start to look like the people we hang out with.
Have you heard this phrase? "You can choose your friends, but you're stuck with family.
" When I was in High School I remember my Mom and Dad choosing the friends I could hang out with.
I was totally indignant and rebelled, of course, but eventually I changed and adopted the friends they had chosen.
It wasn't until many years later that I understood their wisdom.
It wasn't that they didn't want me to have fun.
And it wasn't a mean or hard heart that motivated them to exclude some people and include others.
I think that the excessive desire to please people, motivated by political correctness, has prompted us to lower our standards when it comes to friends.
Who are your friends? Step back and take inventory of your friends.
Note how they spend their time, how they treat others, and their overall attitude.
Are they couch potatoes? Do they treat others with respect? Are they givers? Are they complainers, or positive thinkers? Review your "Score Card" and if the characteristics of the people you call friends are more than 20% negative then, ditch them.
I realize that it sounds harsh but the reality is that they are keeping you in the ditch you are in.
Their attitudes, thoughts, ideas, and actions are CONTAGIOUS.
The longer you remain hanging out with them the more you will be like them.
You will be that bird that flocks together.
The way to reach your goals is to associate yourself with the people who have already achieved them.
This isn't as hard as it seems.
But it does require effort and patience, and the first step is to cut away those who will drag you down.
The people/friends I'm talking about don't share your vision and feel threatened but your ideas.
They are the people that try to talk you out of self development, and personal success.
If it doesn't involve the lottery they will do everything in their power to derail your positive path.
You don't have to be mean about the "break-up".
Simply tell them that that you are doing other things.
They will eventually leave you alone.
Don't get offended if they talk about you behind your back.
Keep your eyes on the goals you've placed before you, and they will one day want to know how you did it, because your goals are within your reach.
There is a saying in Spanish that goes something like this, "Tell me who you hang out with and I'll tell you who you are.
" Are you having difficulty breaking out of the ordinary? Are you struggling to get your footing? Look around and tell me if your friends are in the same predicament.
The answer, 99% of the time, is "Yes, they look just like me.
" At this point most people get defensive and explain how the people around them were their friends all their life, and go one explaining how they got into the position they are.
But the reality remains.
That we start to look like the people we hang out with.
Have you heard this phrase? "You can choose your friends, but you're stuck with family.
" When I was in High School I remember my Mom and Dad choosing the friends I could hang out with.
I was totally indignant and rebelled, of course, but eventually I changed and adopted the friends they had chosen.
It wasn't until many years later that I understood their wisdom.
It wasn't that they didn't want me to have fun.
And it wasn't a mean or hard heart that motivated them to exclude some people and include others.
I think that the excessive desire to please people, motivated by political correctness, has prompted us to lower our standards when it comes to friends.
Who are your friends? Step back and take inventory of your friends.
Note how they spend their time, how they treat others, and their overall attitude.
Are they couch potatoes? Do they treat others with respect? Are they givers? Are they complainers, or positive thinkers? Review your "Score Card" and if the characteristics of the people you call friends are more than 20% negative then, ditch them.
I realize that it sounds harsh but the reality is that they are keeping you in the ditch you are in.
Their attitudes, thoughts, ideas, and actions are CONTAGIOUS.
The longer you remain hanging out with them the more you will be like them.
You will be that bird that flocks together.
The way to reach your goals is to associate yourself with the people who have already achieved them.
This isn't as hard as it seems.
But it does require effort and patience, and the first step is to cut away those who will drag you down.
The people/friends I'm talking about don't share your vision and feel threatened but your ideas.
They are the people that try to talk you out of self development, and personal success.
If it doesn't involve the lottery they will do everything in their power to derail your positive path.
You don't have to be mean about the "break-up".
Simply tell them that that you are doing other things.
They will eventually leave you alone.
Don't get offended if they talk about you behind your back.
Keep your eyes on the goals you've placed before you, and they will one day want to know how you did it, because your goals are within your reach.
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