If you're reading this, you're probably in pain.
And for that I am very sorry.
I've been through this pain and it's not easy.
Can your relationship be saved? It can, but it will take work from both of you.
Here are some tips that can make a difference.
Before we begin, something must first be considered.
At least one of you has to decide that you want to save your relationship.
This probably sounds dumb, but there are times we cling to something we just need to let go.
If neither of you care that much about continuing, than the relationship should come to an agreed end.
Relationships are hard.
They require investing a lot of time and emotion.
So, if one of you has decided that your relationship should be saved, I have a few tips for you.
At this point you might be thinking, "But, doesn't it take two people to make a relationship work?" That's true, it does take two people.
But, I also believe a relationship can be saved by just one who is very dedicated and very committed to the relationship.
So after a little soul-searching, you've decided the relationship is worth saving.
Here are some helpful tips that should help:

1. If you are the "fixer" in the relationship, you need to stop.
   As you keep fixing things, your partner will let you.
   You'll be the one carrying all the relationship burden.
   Stop thinking that it will get better.
   Somehow your partner must also take responsibility.
   It can happen in many different ways, but it must happen.
   Explore those possibilities with either a trusted friend or counselor.
   
2. A relationship falters because of hurt feelings and frustrations.
   Fault usually lies with both partners.
   If you intend to save your relationship, this is important.
   Try to communicate without criticism or blame.
   This is something you'll have to learn and it will take a lot of time and patience.
   
3. If you were at fault, own it.
   Admit your mistakes and apologize.
   The best remedy for resentment is a good apology.
   This is key to taking down the walls built by animosity and hurt.
   A sincere apology to that person you love will be a very sweet sound.
   
4. Finally, learn how to "hear" what your partner is feeling, not just saying.
   The issue is really never the issue.
   It is always how your partner feels about the issue.
   When that is "heard" and understood a relationship can move forward.
   

If you follow these four steps you'll be well on your way.
The problems you have been experiencing did not just happen, they've been growing over time.
The same is true for building a relationship.
It must happen over time as well.
If you are both willing to work together, you can get back to what first drew you together.
A loving and fulfilling relationship is what you both want and you both can have.
Can your relationship be saved? Yes! Begin by following these four tips.