And it is agony, isn't it? The heaviness invades your body holding the pain tight against your heart.
It leaves you no place to hide.
The feeling of loss is something you have never experienced before and can't shake it off.
You feel sad, betrayed and hurt and these feelings keep you grounded to the pain of breaking up.
Although it is true that "time heals all wounds", time is not on your side right now.
Each person has the small light of courage within themselves.
At this time, it is important to tap into that small light in order to move forward.
It won't be easy, it never is when you're hurting.
At this point, don't think, just do.
The 3 crucial steps point inward on you, instead of focusing on the external world.
Since you need to heal from the inside, these are excellent first steps to do just that:

Aromatherapy.
This is so good for you on so many different levels.
If you have friends who offer to help you, send them out to pick-up some products (scented soaps, lotions and shampoo) that have orange, lavender or lemon oil scents.
Get into the tub or take a shower using the scented soap inhaling the fragrance from the soap and relax.
Don't take aromatherapy lightly, it is very powerful and can help the healing process by making positive changes in your brain.
Lavender and orange scents are known to reduce anxiety and improve mood.
Lemon oil aroma while enhancing mood also helps promote relaxation in an individual.
Caution: When you're dealing with essential oils in aromatherapy, read the labels carefully since some oils should NEVER be put directly on skin or be ingested.
Movement.
Exercise is the last thing anyone wants to do when they are depressed.
Ironically, this is a great way to lift the fog and increase your energy levels.
If that's not appealing how about aerobics, or any of the other classes that will get you moving.
Don't forget tennis or swimming.
Check with your friends and see if anyone is interested in taking a class with you.
Promise them you won't keep talking about the breakup.
NOTE: You're doing these activities to take the breakup thought out of your mind and body.
If you replace it with another thought you give your mind, body and soul a chance to heal.
If you continuously dwell on the negative (the breakup) you will keep holding that stressful event inside yourself.
After a period of time your immune system will become depressed and you will get sick.
This is a fact.
Make a list of things you always wanted to do.
Give yourself five minutes of writing (don't analyze, just keep writing).
When you're finished rank them in order of importance.
Take the first two or three and write them in your organizer or a notebook.
Of the three, which one makes you feel a twinge of excitement? Start with that one.
Make a list of every small step you need to take to achieve this goal and beside each small step put a date when you will have accomplished it.
This will take your mind off the breakup and begin the process of making you feel alive again.
Remember when you're not thinking of the breakup, you are allowing your body, mind and soul to heal.