Many individuals who are suffering from their spouses infidelity have some common questions which are, Can they be able to overcome or survive the pain and the humiliation that their spouses infidelity has brought them? Or, Is it possible that they can come out of their spouses betrayal whole again, emotionally and mentally? These questions can possibly be hard to answer in the initial stages when you have just learned about the infidelity. Even at the time where you are just having some suspicions about your partners affairs, it may lead you to a point where you are suspecting your own ability and competence to fulfill your duty as a wife or a husband. This can be very destructive to the aggrieved individual if not given the right and proper counseling or coaching. It is a fact that this kind of marital problem happens to many couples in different levels. Some infidelities happen and end fast, some keep going on, up to the point where the third party tries to cling on hard, which only makes matters worse.

The word survival is the most appropriate word that a person, who has suffered the pain of infidelity, should accomplish. Though, in order to achieve this, there are several stages that they should go through to come out victorious in their marital dilemma. The fear of learning about the infidelity is already heartbreaking itself, nevertheless facing and coping with the pain is devastating and agonizing. This can break you emotionally, mentally and even physically if you dont do anything to face and find solutions to the issue. Can you do it on your own? You may be asking yourself this question and, sadly, the answer is usually NO. This kind of marital issue cannot be solved overnight and cannot be resolved without pouring out your pain and worries to someone who understands and someone who knows how to handle infidelities and betrayals in a manner where the aggrieved party will learn how to face the problem with an open heart and mind. Thinking and acting in a negative way will not help, but can make matters worse than one would expect it to be.

There are two things that you have to decide upon, whether you want to stay on the marriage or whether you want out. These are two different options that can make or break you. If you decided to save your marriage, you have to remember that there are a lot of things that both of you have to work on. You have to keep in mind the difference between wanting to save the marriage because of your childrens welfare and wanting to save the marriage because your love for your spouse is still there and you know that you can work on learning the way to forgiving him/her fully. It is also important to know that you are prepared to go on with your life and relationship knowing you have a genuine feeling of love and peace within yourself and your spouse. You have to keep in mind that love, forgiveness, trust and acceptance is the perfect combination for a life that is full of peace and harmony.