Type in "get him back" on any search engine and you'll find there is a wealth of advice, books and websites in the art of winning a man's heart and getting your man back into your life.
I wasn't particularly looking to get a man back but since I stumbled onto this "Google-fest" I thought I'd investigate further.
In this post "he's not into you" world were there really women out there still trying to win the love of a man after the relationship was over? Is it possible? And would you really want to? I found one man who actually answers these questions.
Bob Grant, LPC, author of The Women Men Adore...
And Never Want to Leave has written a new e-book, How Do I Get Him Back? With candid insight into a man's heart and most importantly his head, Grant gives women a true glimpse into the world of "man think".
If you thought they were from Mars before you'll believe it after this read.
What comes naturally to a woman who wants to share her love could very well be the thing that hurts her relationship the most.
We've been taking advice from our girlfriends for years but how can a woman advise you on the heart of a man? Especially if you were advising her just last week? I was blown away by Grants concepts.
Things like, "words are for women" and "men don't value a woman who give and gives and gives without making him work for anything".
Men don't want anything that comes too easily.
They value the results of hard work; including winning you.
Grant's book explores the myths we believe broke up our relationship, reasons why he left, and a clear plan to get him back.
He helps you discover the qualities you want in a man and encourages you to compare that list to the guy you think is the one.
Using what he calls "non-negotiables" you will actually determine if this guy is worth the trouble.
And if he's not, you'll be OK with it.
Another important contribution Grant makes is the concept of giving yourself value.
Men value the things they have to work for or consider expensive.
Think back to that last big electronics purchase your guy made.
Was he not obsessed with finding out every detail? I'll bet he researched for days, maybe months to make sure he was buying the absolute best.
This is the importance he places on things of value.
This is the importance he'll place on you if you make yourself valuable to him.
Bob Grant shows you how.
My only problem with this book is the title, How Do I Get Him Back? I know a lot of strong, independent women who will immediately dismiss it because they'd feel weak and stupid harboring the very thought of chasing a man.
The book is so much more than a "how to chase and catch a man" guide but the title doesn't even hint at it.
I think it is a must read for any heterosexual woman who's looking to win and keep the love of a good man.
I love that Bob Grant places value on a woman's heart.
He acknowledges the tremendous effort we put into making our relationships work and introduces a new paradigm in our thinking about the men we love.
He does this without disrespecting men and reducing them to cavemen as so many authors have and still do.
He has managed to write a guide that respects both parties and truly attempts to bring about a good love match.
I feel as if he really cares about bringing people together and creating happy couples.
He knows that the best way to do this is to advise the one who's going to do the most work - women.
Become aware of what you want, give yourself value, say what you mean, and celebrate your femininity.
Single, married, happy or not - this is good advice for any woman.
To read more about Bob Grant's work or to purchase his books go to http://www.
winhislove.
com/.