Have you ever competed with another guy for a woman and you ended up losing out and there was a part of you that just did not understand why that was? Sometimes it can seem as though the nicer that you are to a woman you like, the more likely it is that you are actually going to be the one who loses out.
I know that it can seem like a harsh truth about dating, but it might not have gone down the way that you see it.
What I mean is, sometimes you can feel like it is a bad thing to be a nice guy with women, but when you look at things from a different angle, you'll see that it had more to do with other things and not the fact that you are a nice guy.
Still, when you lose out to a guy and you feel like you should have been the one who got the girl, it can really leave you feeling bruised.
You might feel like you just don't want to try again, just so that you can avoid the pain that you feel when you don't end up getting what you want.
I'd recommend against that, though.
There is a much better approach that you can take and that is to actually take a closer look at what the other guy might have been doing right that you were doing wrong.
Here are some things that you may want to look at to see why you didn't end up getting the girl: 1) You may not have established yourself as someone who liked her that way.
This is always going to leave you feeling as if you got a raw deal.
If you approach a woman and act like the only thing that you want is to be her friend, you really can't whine later on when that is all that she sees you as.
It might not feel good and you might wish things were different, but if you set yourself up as being just her friend - then you kind of got what you deserved.
You have to establish yourself as someone who likes her as more than just a friend if you want to have a chance at being her boyfriend.
2) You may have given her some mixed messages that she did not know how to interpret.
Guys talk about how women give them mixed signals all of the time, but you know what? To a lot of women, it's the guy who is giving out the mixed signals.
If that is the case, then the next time around you have to be able to see that this is what is happening and make some adjustments.
This goes back to the fact that you need to frame the situation where you are trying to win her over.
Men and women don't always know what each other is thinking and as the guy, sometimes you have to be able to help her out a little bit on this front.
3) Your flirting techniques were sub-par to the other guy's.
If you are in competition with another guy for a woman you are attracted to, then you better believe that you need to have the superior flirting skills.
If you don't, then you may not really stand much of a chance.
You can be as nice as you want to be, but if you can't make her feel like there are lots of sparks between you and her, then you don't really have a shot with her.
That's why it is so important that you learn the proper ways to flirt with a woman so that you don't have to even worry about the other guy, he will have to worry about You.