Coping with a relationship and break up is one of the hardest issues most people find themselves forced to deal with.
But it is also a very common experience.
Luckily you can find a lot of good advice out there.
What works for someone else may not do so for you.
But just seeing other people that have gone through the same pain and survived is very positive and helps reassure us, that we can overcome it too.
The first thing in coping with a relationship you need to do is accept the relationship has indeed ended...
at least for the time being.
There is always a chance of reconciliation again later on.
For now, you should not be beating yourself up about any of that..
An important thing to remember; when coping with a relationship.
Do not try to trouble your ex unless it is absolutely necessary.
Many splits involve kids, so you may need to have a certain amount of interaction for the childrens' sake.
But keep it civil, friendly and to a bare minimum.
An important strategy is to tell your ex you agree with the break and your saw it coming.
Also you regret a lot of what you did...
you could have done a lot of things better..
..
Just keep it sincere and light...
leave it at that.
Your ex will stop feeling trapped or to blame.
They will feel safer and not feel like they have to block you out to keep their much needed space.
You stop being the enemy and become the friend you once were.
Do you see how important and powerful this strategy really is.
You just went from shut out completely? and never want to see you again? to best friend and confidante in one smooth leap.
The biggest hurdle is over.
You only need work on putting all the passion back into your relationship.
Give them all the attention they deserve and everything you know they are passionate about and voila! You are back together stronger and better than before.
Another important point to remember, you have history together that no one else can compete with.
You know all the things no one else could possibly know about your partner.
Remember to give your ex their space first? Then remember and re-live the good times and all the things you did together when you first met...
Remember the passion and being passionate and you will have your relationship back on track guaranteed.
In simple terms you both forgot how it used to be.
The doting, the love, the way you used to do everything to win the others heart.
How you lived for the other.
You did not realize you were drifting apart.
You probably became to individualistic and insistent on your own ways.
This is also about lack of flexibility and about lack of compromise.
These are the foundations and cornerstone of permanent long lasting relationships.
People mistakenly internalize compromise and flexibility as giving ground and losing who they are? You experience changes every single day of your life.
You are not the same person you were as teenager? You have grown through life experiences into who you are today.
Sometimes better, sometimes worse.
Hopefully all for the better.
You are what you have become.
You can guarantee that by the time you are seventy years old you will be a far different person than you are now.
Your morals and thought processes will have changed markedly.
Your world view will be different.
For many people they will discover they have a world view? It is time to get out of this mindset of- I am giving up my individuality and freedom of choice...
I need to be me...
I cannot change who I am...
Life and life experiences have a way of creating change that will certainly destroy all of those myths.
These are the mores and mindset of coping with a relationship in a less painful, intelligent and mature way.