Conflicts evolve in our daily activities and must be expertly managed.
When conflict is mismanaged, it negatively affects the relationship between individuals and ultimately suppresses the desire to be mutually innovative but when handled in a respectful and positive way, it provides an opportunity for growth and ultimately strengthens the bond between people.
Cruel misunderstandings, one after another yet sublime, can alter a family.
Thus, learning how to deal with conflict rather than avoiding it is crucial.
While we learn from our mistakes, we would probably be more happy with less education.
Neither does it mean the end of one's freedom nor putting up with torture.
The key is to find a balance and overcome these uncomfortable situations.
Firstly, Get In Touch With Your Feelings because sometimes we feel angry or resentful, but don't know why.
Mostly, we feel that the other person isn't doing what they 'should, but we aren't aware of exactly what we want from them, or if it's even reasonable.
We need to get in touch with our feelings with our "personal journal".
It helps to get in touch with our own feelings, thoughts and expectations so we are better able to communicate them to the other person.
Secondly, endeavour to Hone Your Listening Skills.
How effectively we listen is at least as important as how effectively we express ourselves.
It's vital to understand the other person's perspective, rather than just our own, if we are to come to a resolution.
Thus, you need to help other people to feel heard and understood because this can sometimes go a long way towards understanding the differences.
Unfortunately, active listening is a skill that not everybody knows, and it's common for people to think they're listening, while in their heads they're actually formulating their next response, thinking to themselves how wrong the other person is, or doing things other than trying to understand the other person's perspective.
It's also common to be so defensive and entrenched in your own perspective that you literally can't hear the other person's point of view.
Thirdly, always communicate your feelings and needs clearly.
Because saying the wrong things can be like pouring fuel on fire, and make the conflict worse.
The important thing to remember is to say what's on your mind in a way that is clear and assertive, without being aggressive or putting the other person on the defensive.
It is better to sleep on what you plan to do than to lie awake because of what you have done.
Fourthly, always endeavour to seek a "common ground" because once you understand the other person's perspective, and they understand yours; it provides a comfortable feeling.
The important thing is to come to a place of understanding, and try to work things out in a way that's respectful to all involved.
It is much easier to cry about the way things are, to grumble and to complain, than it is to build up the courage to change our circumstances.
We'd rather leave it up to God, and when we 'realise' that God is not hearing our cries, we start losing faith.
Finally, resolving conflict in relationship can be tricky.
If handled improperly, attempts at conflict resolution can actually make the conflict worse.
For those who weren't born into a family where perfect conflict resolution skills were modelled on a daily basis; Only you can decide if a relationship can be improved, or should be let go.
Achieving a goal is never final and failure to do so is never fatal.
The worst failure is failure to try.