Porn on Teen"s Computer
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A mom wonders: I'm wondering how other parents feel about their kids having their own computers/laptops and having access to internet porn? We got our son his laptop (for school) just before he started college and I recently discovered he has many "questionable" sites he has been visiting by looking at his browser history. He normally has his computer shut down and has his own passwords so no one can get on it but one day it was just there on his bed and it was not shut down so I checked his website history out of curiosity.
With all the other issues we are dealing with I really don't know how to approach this one - or if I even should. He is 18 and it is his computer so it's not like I can filter anything anymore. Should I try and talk to him about it or leave it alone?
Denise's thoughts: Unless it is causing him to spend all of his money or lock his bedroom door for days on end, I would leave it alone and deal with other issues first. At 18, he needs to make his own choices in these matters and be afforded some privacy.
If you would like to talk to him about your views on internet porn, by all means do so. Just wait for another opportunity to bring it up. But I would forego the 'questionable sites' on his computer. I do have a different opinion for younger teens, you can see it here.
Ask our community: Where is the line of talking to an older teen about private matters? Do you wait until the matter affects the family or not? Share your thoughts, opinions and experiences in the comments area.
Related Resources:
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A mom wonders: I'm wondering how other parents feel about their kids having their own computers/laptops and having access to internet porn? We got our son his laptop (for school) just before he started college and I recently discovered he has many "questionable" sites he has been visiting by looking at his browser history. He normally has his computer shut down and has his own passwords so no one can get on it but one day it was just there on his bed and it was not shut down so I checked his website history out of curiosity.
With all the other issues we are dealing with I really don't know how to approach this one - or if I even should. He is 18 and it is his computer so it's not like I can filter anything anymore. Should I try and talk to him about it or leave it alone?
Denise's thoughts: Unless it is causing him to spend all of his money or lock his bedroom door for days on end, I would leave it alone and deal with other issues first. At 18, he needs to make his own choices in these matters and be afforded some privacy.
If you would like to talk to him about your views on internet porn, by all means do so. Just wait for another opportunity to bring it up. But I would forego the 'questionable sites' on his computer. I do have a different opinion for younger teens, you can see it here.
Ask our community: Where is the line of talking to an older teen about private matters? Do you wait until the matter affects the family or not? Share your thoughts, opinions and experiences in the comments area.
Related Resources:
- Parenting Quiz - Is your teen safe online?
- How to Keep Your Teen From Becoming an Online Porn Star
- What Parents Need To Know About Teens and Internet Usage
- Opening Up the Lines of Communication
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