Ladies, I know we husbands can be difficult.
OK, we can be downright unbearable sometimes! Yet, most of us want to be the best husbands, fathers, lovers, and friends that we can possibly be.
I have a counselor friend who says "If you want friends, be friendly".
I'm stealing that phrase for marriage - "If you want a lover, be a lover.
" "If you want a friend, be a friend.
" "If you want to be encouraged, be an encourager!" Take those phrases to heart as you go through this list of 51 tips to help encourage your husband to be the best for you and your marriage!

1. Build him up in front of your friends.
   
2. Build him up in front of his friends.
   
3. Iron his clothes for him.
   
4. Don't nag when he messes up, or hasn't performed up to your expectations.
   
5. Initiate sex without him having to ask.
   
6. Leave notes for him in his drawers.
   
7. Leave notes for him in his car.
   
8. Send him messages via text or email during the day.
   
9. Compliment him on a job well done.
   
10. Massage his back or neck.
    
11. Love and appreciate him before he gets it right.
    
12. Look into his eyes as he speaks.
    
13. Never bad mouth him to your kids.
    
14. Begin to try and understand (maybe enjoy) the things he enjoys - like sports, cars or hunting!
15. Don't rub it in his face when you are right, and he is wrong.
    
16. Even if the "Big Game" bores you, or you just "don't get it" - sit and watch with him.
    
17. Encourage him in his dreams.
    
18. Tell him you believe in him.
    
19. Tell him he is a great father.
    
20. Tell him he is a great lover.
    
21. Tell him he is your best friend.
    
22. Show up at his office in nothing but an overcoat.
    (Ok, maybe you can't do that one too easily, but you could...
    )
23. Show up at his office with a gift that others would be able to notice on his desk.
    Probably not flowers - but maybe a cool framed pic of the two of you?
24. Continue to learn about your husbands likes and dislikes, wants, and desires.
    
25. Listen to him when he talks.
    
26. Make your bedroom a safe haven both of you can enjoy.
    
27. Tell him what is on your mind - if he is up for it!
28. Bubble Bath.
    
29. Shower with him.
    
30. Use two words: "I'm Sorry".
    
31. Use three words: "I love You".
    
32. Use four words: "I respect you honey".
    
33. Use five words: "How about a blow job?"
34. Use six words: "I love you more each day".
    
35. Use seven words: "I think you are SO SEXY honey!".
    
36. Use eight words: "God has blessed me with a great husband!"
37. Cook Dinner and eat it by candlelight.
    
38. Be dessert.
    
39. When he gets home from work - meet him at the door with a smile and a kiss.
    
40. Let him enjoy time with his friends.
    
41. Enjoy looking good for him.
    
42. Be quick to apologize when you mess up.
    
43. Never compare him with an ex husband or lover.
    
44. Touch him more often.
    
45. Smile at him.
    
46. Kiss him passionately as he walks out the door.
    
47. Learn about his work.
    
48. Love him unconditionally.
    
49. Buy him his favorite: cigar, candy, drink, toy...
    etc!
50. Take him to a lingerie store and let him pick what he likes on you.
    
51. Write down the things you love about him.
    Send it as a letter, or read it to him in bed.
    

I know a list like this can be daunting.
I would encourage you though to print it off, highlight the ones you would like to try, and implement one or two into your life.
Then, after a bit, try another couple.
I'd love to hear what happens in your marriage!