Making a Change
Each of us come to point in our lives that require change; however, many of us have a difficult time when it comes to making that change.
The one thing that truly hurts me about people today is their way of parenting.
By no means am I claiming to be a perfect parent, but my children are my first priority.
Not only for the reason that God has blessed me to have such wonderful little people, but because, they're innocent and deserve a good life and didn't asked to be here.
So, when God blesses us to become parents we have to do our very best to provide, encourage, and place a value on our children that is priceless.
But yet many parents don't and will never, leaving many children to suffer.
I wish there was some sort of way children couldn't be born to such people.
Our children are innocent and need us to be the sort of parents that we're suppose to be.
You can't imagine how many parents are unable to have their own children, but yet have to hear or watch some parents mistreat and neglect their children because they would rather place their own needs in front of the child's.
For instance, I volunteered my time at a homeless shelter to help mentor the children and even some of the mothers.
Most of the women were in the shelter because of their personal choices which resulting in their homelessness; however, this particular mother was unable to care for her children even after being on welfare for years.
The state said enough is enough, her children were pre-teens and her time ran out.
But instead of using the system to better herself for the sake of her children she rather chase down men looking for a man to support them as oppose to getting out on her own to provide support.
As a psychology major I have studied behaviors of this magnitude, but it is a little different when you are looking at the behavior right in the face.
I often asked her why she felt she needed a man that bad to where she would allow anyone around her children? Of course, her an her bad attitude was unable to explain and became defensive.
Well, that pretty much told me she knew what she was doing wasn't right, which brought about her anger.
From my understanding, she wasn't a drug user, she was simply addicted to men and sex.
I felt extremely bad for her children because two out of the three were extremely intelligent, made straight A's in school, even with their struggles.
It takes a lot for a child to see through their home life such as this and still manage to give their best in school.
However, the third child had some issues.
He was the one acting out, causing him to receive many punishments; when I say punishments, I'm talking pretty bad punishments.
This child didn't stand a chance at a normal life, but the mother didn't seem to care.
Later, after watching this family for weeks I realized the third child received punishments more often than the other two, not only because he acted out, but I really felt as if the mother seen herself in him.
He was the one child that favored her over the other two.
After a month or so volunteering I couldn't take it anymore, I couldn't stand the sight of this mother; she was evil to the core, but yet, she never wanted to be better.
When we had motivational teachings, she refused to allow her children to participate.
When she had to attend church services on Wednesday nights, she took it as an invitation to the club, but, they say come as you are and obviously that is all she knew.
I left before I could find out the outcome of her and her children, I only hope the two that were managing under the circumstances have turned out well.
As for the third child I hope the same, but I believe he was the child that had been damaged the worse.
Raising children today is hard, as mother's and father's we have to understand we are obligated to them; meaning, it is no one's responsibility to take care of our children but the two people that brought them into the world.
There are people who treat dogs better than some treat their children.
I watch mothers drive around in their closed up vehicles smoking cigarettes with a child in the back seat.
I have watched father's just simply walk away never concerning themselves with the welfare of their own children; mother's too.
I've heard of mother's taking their nutritional assistance (food stamps), which has been giving to them for their children, and sell them for cash.
A lady receives $900.
00 a month in food stamps for nine children and herself, she sells half for cash.
Now, someone do the math.
How on earth are you going to feed 10 people on $450.
00s a month; amazing.
My first thought was to tell others who actually witnessed this to report her, but where will this leave the children; possibly homeless, or even somewhere in foster care, and that is definitely not a good place for the children either.
I can't say it enough, our children are truly our prize possessions and there is absolutely nothing greater in my eyes than being a good parent.
I understand some may struggle in the process of becoming better, but that struggle only last for a short while when you're doing the right thing.
For those who choose not to, the struggle you face now will continue to be the same struggle everyday.
Children eventually grow up and become parents of their own, but if you haven't been a good role model in their childhood many of them will repeat the same habits and behaviors as their own parents.
Some escape, but most repeat the behavior against their own children.
Give your children the best life you're capable of.
Many are capable of plenty more but selfishness, anger, unforgiveness, and laziness creeps in and they settle.
But these are your children, don't settle on the very best gift that has been given to you.
Children understand a lot more than parents think, and even if they see the struggle you may have to go through, if you stick to it, not only will you benefit from it, your children benefit as well and this is a benefit that can last a life time.
Parents should want their children to be better than they are, don't limit it with settling.
The one thing that truly hurts me about people today is their way of parenting.
By no means am I claiming to be a perfect parent, but my children are my first priority.
Not only for the reason that God has blessed me to have such wonderful little people, but because, they're innocent and deserve a good life and didn't asked to be here.
So, when God blesses us to become parents we have to do our very best to provide, encourage, and place a value on our children that is priceless.
But yet many parents don't and will never, leaving many children to suffer.
I wish there was some sort of way children couldn't be born to such people.
Our children are innocent and need us to be the sort of parents that we're suppose to be.
You can't imagine how many parents are unable to have their own children, but yet have to hear or watch some parents mistreat and neglect their children because they would rather place their own needs in front of the child's.
For instance, I volunteered my time at a homeless shelter to help mentor the children and even some of the mothers.
Most of the women were in the shelter because of their personal choices which resulting in their homelessness; however, this particular mother was unable to care for her children even after being on welfare for years.
The state said enough is enough, her children were pre-teens and her time ran out.
But instead of using the system to better herself for the sake of her children she rather chase down men looking for a man to support them as oppose to getting out on her own to provide support.
As a psychology major I have studied behaviors of this magnitude, but it is a little different when you are looking at the behavior right in the face.
I often asked her why she felt she needed a man that bad to where she would allow anyone around her children? Of course, her an her bad attitude was unable to explain and became defensive.
Well, that pretty much told me she knew what she was doing wasn't right, which brought about her anger.
From my understanding, she wasn't a drug user, she was simply addicted to men and sex.
I felt extremely bad for her children because two out of the three were extremely intelligent, made straight A's in school, even with their struggles.
It takes a lot for a child to see through their home life such as this and still manage to give their best in school.
However, the third child had some issues.
He was the one acting out, causing him to receive many punishments; when I say punishments, I'm talking pretty bad punishments.
This child didn't stand a chance at a normal life, but the mother didn't seem to care.
Later, after watching this family for weeks I realized the third child received punishments more often than the other two, not only because he acted out, but I really felt as if the mother seen herself in him.
He was the one child that favored her over the other two.
After a month or so volunteering I couldn't take it anymore, I couldn't stand the sight of this mother; she was evil to the core, but yet, she never wanted to be better.
When we had motivational teachings, she refused to allow her children to participate.
When she had to attend church services on Wednesday nights, she took it as an invitation to the club, but, they say come as you are and obviously that is all she knew.
I left before I could find out the outcome of her and her children, I only hope the two that were managing under the circumstances have turned out well.
As for the third child I hope the same, but I believe he was the child that had been damaged the worse.
Raising children today is hard, as mother's and father's we have to understand we are obligated to them; meaning, it is no one's responsibility to take care of our children but the two people that brought them into the world.
There are people who treat dogs better than some treat their children.
I watch mothers drive around in their closed up vehicles smoking cigarettes with a child in the back seat.
I have watched father's just simply walk away never concerning themselves with the welfare of their own children; mother's too.
I've heard of mother's taking their nutritional assistance (food stamps), which has been giving to them for their children, and sell them for cash.
A lady receives $900.
00 a month in food stamps for nine children and herself, she sells half for cash.
Now, someone do the math.
How on earth are you going to feed 10 people on $450.
00s a month; amazing.
My first thought was to tell others who actually witnessed this to report her, but where will this leave the children; possibly homeless, or even somewhere in foster care, and that is definitely not a good place for the children either.
I can't say it enough, our children are truly our prize possessions and there is absolutely nothing greater in my eyes than being a good parent.
I understand some may struggle in the process of becoming better, but that struggle only last for a short while when you're doing the right thing.
For those who choose not to, the struggle you face now will continue to be the same struggle everyday.
Children eventually grow up and become parents of their own, but if you haven't been a good role model in their childhood many of them will repeat the same habits and behaviors as their own parents.
Some escape, but most repeat the behavior against their own children.
Give your children the best life you're capable of.
Many are capable of plenty more but selfishness, anger, unforgiveness, and laziness creeps in and they settle.
But these are your children, don't settle on the very best gift that has been given to you.
Children understand a lot more than parents think, and even if they see the struggle you may have to go through, if you stick to it, not only will you benefit from it, your children benefit as well and this is a benefit that can last a life time.
Parents should want their children to be better than they are, don't limit it with settling.
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