It's happened to almost every woman who hasn't married her high school sweetheart.
He loves you, or so you thought, but he's never told you so.
Eventually the insecurity that is created forces either you or him to call it quits, and when that day comes you feel confused by the tears you see welling up in his eyes.
If he really loves you, why won't he say so? So his tears can't be real, can they? Yes, they can be real, and in many cases they are.
It's likely he's just as confused as you are.
The problem may be that he is unwilling to commit to you (or to anyone else at this point n his life), and yet he may still think of you fondly every single day for the rest of his life.
Does that qualify as love? Many people, both male and female, would say no.
Love, after all, is a commitment, isn't it? Well, maybe not.
Unhappy married couples may be at each other's throats all day long, and yet be committed to their marriage.
In many cultures marriage is an economic decision that has absolutely nothing to do with love.
Commitment does not necessarily imply love, and by the same token, love does not necessarily imply a willingness to commit.
Western culture tragically fails to make a distinction between love and commitment.
They go great together, like peanut butter and chocolate, like peas and carrots, but they are not the exactly the same thing.