A parent's relationship with their child directly depends upon the child's perspective of their world.
 Here are 7 in-depth notes on stabilising any imbalance on your parent / child scale.
 By applying these subtle changes in your approach, your child will hold you in greater esteem and find a greater sense of belonging, self-worth and parenting justice.
 And life becomes a little easier for all involved.
   A.
      Advise, don't ask: An easy way to reach common ground is to fine-tune any decision your child might make, with good advice.
 You can maintain the upper hand and ultimately, shape any outcome without excluding your child from the proceedings.
 This heightens your child's sense of value, self-worth and perhaps paramount, their opinion of you and of how you consider them.
   B.
      Befriend, don't battle.
 Bridging any communication gap that exists between parent and child is mutually beneficial.
 The strengthened confidence that your child attains from your obvious commitment to and understanding of them can alleviate any reluctance they may hold when it comes to confiding in you.
 They'll feel secure in sharing their sometimes secretive or askew world view which, at a later stage, could prove critical.
       C.
      Compromise, don't concede.
 Calling all the shots can lead to conflict as any parent will know.
 So, whilst it's all too easy to cave-in to a child's desires, compromise can lead to a win-win situation.
 You can maintain control of a situation whilst communicating exactly who's in charge, as well as illustrating the compassion and compliance in your parenting practice.
       D.
      Discuss, don't dictate.
 Direction is a key skill for any parent.
 Being able to discuss the reasons behind your decisions can be priceless.
 Saying 'because I said so' to a child, well, there's nothing much worse for a child to hear.
 Knowing your reasons and conveying them can earn you far greater respect and deeper understanding from your child.
    E.
       Engage, don't exclude.
 Explaining the reasons for a situation can be simplified when the child's initially involved in the decision making process.
 This way you're highlighting both the pros and cons of what can sometimes be seen as 'their' and 'your' conflicting opinions.
  F.
       Follow, don't flag.
 Falling behind with where your child's development level is at can be costly.
 Without having proper guidance to steer them at any potential turning point of their upbringing, a child could easily arrive at an inferior conclusion which later in life, could serve them unjustly.
     G.
     Grant, don't give.
 Getting what they want can overshadow actual priorities and a child might react negatively if they don't get their own way.
 It's no secret and we want to give them what they deserve and it's no secret that it's all too easy to spoil a child.
 So granting instead of outright giving can broaden a child's sense of respect.
 They get what they want, they fully understand why they got it and can find it easier to justify the reasons when they don't.
So, can such subtle changes in approach really pay off? The ultimate key is to communicate your stance in any given situation.
 Understanding your decisions and actions can illuminate your superior knowledge, consideration and levels of calculation at any level.
 You can maintain control without projecting the 'fascist dictator' image that most parents unwittingly give when shouting instructions at a perplexed child.
  And please bear in mind that this article is based on my personal experience, a father of two and imperfect human being, who has been known to impersonally shout at his kids when emotionally impaired!