What Happens When Your Teen Tells You She Is Pregnant
Perhaps you have noticed that your young teenage daughter seems to be more quiet than usual and is somewhat avoiding you. There is no doubt that the younger teens are moody but usually the older teens are a little more stable. You are most likely worried about this situation.
You need to identify what the problem is and it could be in the back of your mind that you suspect your teen daughter may be pregnant. The first thing you need to do is open a door of opportunity for her to be able to tell you. This is one of the first of many difficult circumstances that she is going to be facing in the next little while. No matter how disappointed you are, she desperately needs you right now. In any event, you want to be there to help her make her decisions so she does not do something that could be detrimental to her health.
You need to tell her that you are there for her and it does not matter what the problem is you want to help her work it out. If she feels that, you are sincere about this then she will probably reveal to you that she is pregnant. From this point on now, the situation has to be approached as to her options.
Here is where what you say and do is very important. Of course, the age of your daughter is going to be a very important factor as well. Let us assume she is around the age of eighteen. Yes old enough to marry but is that the solution? What is important here is that you allow your daughter to ultimately make her own decision. Try not to give your opinion or a "what I would do" type of solution.
The reason I say this is that if you let your daughter make her own decision without any pressure then years down the road she is not going to look back and blame you for whatever decision was made. If she is not put in this position then she will deal and accept whatever decision she finally makes.
What you can do to help is to get her to make educated decisions. Cover all the possible options then get her to research the facts about them and be sure she knows the pros and cons. In the end though you must make her feel that it will be her decision, you will respect it and stand by it.
You need to identify what the problem is and it could be in the back of your mind that you suspect your teen daughter may be pregnant. The first thing you need to do is open a door of opportunity for her to be able to tell you. This is one of the first of many difficult circumstances that she is going to be facing in the next little while. No matter how disappointed you are, she desperately needs you right now. In any event, you want to be there to help her make her decisions so she does not do something that could be detrimental to her health.
You need to tell her that you are there for her and it does not matter what the problem is you want to help her work it out. If she feels that, you are sincere about this then she will probably reveal to you that she is pregnant. From this point on now, the situation has to be approached as to her options.
Here is where what you say and do is very important. Of course, the age of your daughter is going to be a very important factor as well. Let us assume she is around the age of eighteen. Yes old enough to marry but is that the solution? What is important here is that you allow your daughter to ultimately make her own decision. Try not to give your opinion or a "what I would do" type of solution.
The reason I say this is that if you let your daughter make her own decision without any pressure then years down the road she is not going to look back and blame you for whatever decision was made. If she is not put in this position then she will deal and accept whatever decision she finally makes.
What you can do to help is to get her to make educated decisions. Cover all the possible options then get her to research the facts about them and be sure she knows the pros and cons. In the end though you must make her feel that it will be her decision, you will respect it and stand by it.
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