Improving your relationships takes work.
It's not something that you can easily repair overnight.
After all, problems in your relationships usually developed over many months or years.
It's unrealistic to think that they can be solved immediately.
However, there are things that you can do which can have an immediate effect on improving your relationships.
When you do these things consistently over time, you will see that the immediate effects translated into long-term improvements.
When having problems in their relationships, people often turn to counseling.
Counseling can be very effective for a number of psychological problems.
However, when it comes to improving love relationships, counseling can have very mixed results.
Many people are under the impression that when they go to a counselor, the counselor will see that their partner is clearly the problem.
The counselor will then berate their partner, and give them a medal for putting up with their partner all of these years.
Unfortunately, that's just not the case.
Counselors will rarely take sides.
This is frustrating to most people.
In addition, counseling is a very long-term process.
You usually meet once per week, and no completion date is set.
The counseling often begins with the counselor asking endless questions about each of your pasts, including your childhood, your relationships with your parents, and any other traumatic events that occurred during this time.
This process alone could take weeks.
For people who are in an emotional state, who require immediate help with their problem relationships, this can be very frustrating.
It doesn't have to be like this.
There are things that you can do that can make an immediate difference in your relationships.
One of the main reasons that people have difficulties in their relationships, is that they develop habits in the way that they interact or deal with their partner.
These habits develop over time and can be very difficult to break.
I encourage you to implement the following technique beginning today and I guarantee you that you will start to notice immediate results tomorrow.
If you consistently and faithfully apply this technique, you will notice a major difference in your relationship and in yourself.
So let's get started.
When you and your partner were first together, neither of you could do wrong.
You focused on all of the good and positive traits of your partner, and ignored or neglected to notice any of the not so good traits.
By doing this, you paved the way for intimacy.
It brought you closer and closer together.
Conversely, as your relationships progressed, you gradually began to notice flaws in your partner.
You began to notice habits and behaviors in your partner which annoyed you.
Just as ignoring these behaviors in the past brought you closer and closer together, as you began to call attention to these habits and behaviors you began to drift farther and farther apart.
So starting today this is what I want you to do.
I want you to let your partner be whoever it is that they are.
What I mean by this is, if they have a bad habit, ignored it.
If something they do frustrates you, ignore it.
If any of their behaviors cause you any sort of grief, simply ignore them.
Let them go where they want.
Let them do what they want to do.
Let them talk all they want to talk.
Let them see what they want to see.
Let them have what they want to have.
Get the idea? I know this will be extremely difficult for some of you.
But if you truly want to fix your relationships, you must do this.
Don't do this begrudgingly, don't do it with a frown, don't do it with sarcasm, don't do it with spite, do it freely, willingly, and openly.
Act as if everything is great and just the way it's supposed to be.
This will take practice.
You will not master it overnight.
But practice it every day, day in and day out.
Catch yourself when you fall into your old habit of complaining, criticizing, and being negative towards your partner because of their unknowing behaviors.
By consistently doing this over time, something magical will happen in your relationships.
You will notice that you will once again start becoming closer and closer together.
You will notice a spark in your relationships has been reignited.
You will notice a change in yourself; you will notice that you have become a much more happy and positive person.
And almost as if magic, you will notice a change in your partner.
Yes, all of this will take time.
I go into much greater detail on how to implement this technique, including detailed examples, in my book.
For now, simply begin implementing this technique as best you can on a daily basis.
I guarantee you, you will be amazed at the results.