Is it Over? Is it the End of the Road For Your Relationship?
There are a million reasons why couples go through crises and may indeed face a split up.
For example, a common one is cheating.
But infidelity is not necessarily the cause of the problems but the symptoms of underlying problems which need to be addressed by the individual even if the couple no longer exists.
Some authorities in this field sustain that there are some common denominators to all bad relationships, some common aspects, which go beyond, for example, the event of infidelity.
Those common denominators, if present, are indeed indicators that the relationship is not a healthy one and you do have to contemplate either therapy or counselling or a going your separate ways (possibly accompanied with individual therapy or counselling).
The worst common are those indicating that one of both people do not grow with each other but rather their growth is thwarted.
Their individuality, their own dreams, their own aspirations, their own life goals are severely thwarted within the couple and all of what they used to be (or would like to be) is repressed.
It could be repressed so much that you may not be aware of it, but just feel an overall sense of depression or anxiety or even some anger; generally, it's apathy and indifference.
Of course if there is violence or some form of abuse an immediate separation is essential.
But, even without abuse the situation can be painful and needs to be addressed.
A good therapist (or a top-counsellor) will train the couple on how to relate to each other in a way that's actually exciting as well as nurturing.
If there is an overall sense of 'dissatisfaction', even if you cannot pinpoint any overt, severe problems, it does need to be addressed.
It often stems from the same problem, namely from the fact that the couple does not help, support or nourishes the individual's growth.
Growing as people, as dreamers, as thinkers, as emotional beings (and so on) is essential to feeling satisfied.
So, the couple needs to ensure ways to connect with each other and to support each other that ensure the individual's growth.
For example, a common one is cheating.
But infidelity is not necessarily the cause of the problems but the symptoms of underlying problems which need to be addressed by the individual even if the couple no longer exists.
Some authorities in this field sustain that there are some common denominators to all bad relationships, some common aspects, which go beyond, for example, the event of infidelity.
Those common denominators, if present, are indeed indicators that the relationship is not a healthy one and you do have to contemplate either therapy or counselling or a going your separate ways (possibly accompanied with individual therapy or counselling).
The worst common are those indicating that one of both people do not grow with each other but rather their growth is thwarted.
Their individuality, their own dreams, their own aspirations, their own life goals are severely thwarted within the couple and all of what they used to be (or would like to be) is repressed.
It could be repressed so much that you may not be aware of it, but just feel an overall sense of depression or anxiety or even some anger; generally, it's apathy and indifference.
Of course if there is violence or some form of abuse an immediate separation is essential.
But, even without abuse the situation can be painful and needs to be addressed.
A good therapist (or a top-counsellor) will train the couple on how to relate to each other in a way that's actually exciting as well as nurturing.
If there is an overall sense of 'dissatisfaction', even if you cannot pinpoint any overt, severe problems, it does need to be addressed.
It often stems from the same problem, namely from the fact that the couple does not help, support or nourishes the individual's growth.
Growing as people, as dreamers, as thinkers, as emotional beings (and so on) is essential to feeling satisfied.
So, the couple needs to ensure ways to connect with each other and to support each other that ensure the individual's growth.
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