For most everyone, dieting is the problem for most over weight people.
If dieting reminds you of why you are dieting then you may be simply reinforcing the belief that you are not OK as you are.
Does dieting bring out the joy and happiness in you? If not, stop dieting.
Unfortunately people believe that you can deal with what has already occurred in order to change what is about to occur.
If this is so for you, great, but if you've been in this process of losing weight for years, perhaps you'd like to consider the following.
What would be the body weight you would like to carry for the rest of your life? What is the experience you'd be feeling having a wonderful presentation in life? How would you feel in the presence of yourself and your intimately close loved ones and people in the world? Look and see what that feeling would be like.
See yourself in places with people where you feel really comfortable and at ease and even proud of your appearance.
How do you feel? Okay then, now you know what you want at the level of feelings and emotions.
Now of course you could allow yourself to get even more clear about that but in any case, this is what you actually want when you are 'dieting', when you are reading about dieting, when you are checking the calories and discussing it with your friends, when you are exercising, etc.
Again - Know what you want - and this is always and without exception, an emotional set of feelings, not feelings and emotions you do not want, only the ones you DO wish to be present and sustained.
Find ways to release emotions you do not want - not the weight or the appearance - but the emotions you do not want.
The iCap which I refer to at the end of this article is one of my favorites; there are others for assisting you in releasing emotions.
They are not necessary however.
Maintain the existence of powerful conversations - taking old conversations out of existence by simply not engaging them.
There is no need to talk about dieting ever again, do what you do but put no attention on the dieting aspect of it.
Do talk about everything you love about yourself and life.
Read my articles and everything you can about the law of attraction, see Abraham-Hicks.
Release unwanted emotions which keep you stuck.
And choose to be happy by setting up as many things in your space where you find yourself feeling good.
Only eat when you are happy, Talk in the present tense.
I enjoy that I can deliberately choose to be happy about my appearance.
I am happy that I'm happier everyday and that the process is exciting to me.
I can continue doing all that I do to love my body a little stronger every day.
I'm building my love and happiness about my self each day.
It's not about losing weight.
Though I may lose weight and that is wonderful for me as well, what really gives me pleasure is the feeling of joy I am strengthening.
The idea that I can significantly strengthen my joyful feelings about my self is great and exciting news.
By choosing to feel better, by thinking a better feeling thought and then reaching for an even better feeling thought you can slowly cause change your reality.
If you are strongly committed to your better feeling self, know that you may find a pitfall such as dropping into a feeling of failure and feeling bad about yourself.
Simply notice it as an old pattern, there to remind you of feelings and thoughts which are attempting to hang on as it is recognized as losing its dominant state.
Never make yourself wrong, simply notice it and give it no attention.
See the emotions that are present and deliberately reach for something that makes you feel better.
Say to yourself 'things are moving along and I am enjoying the process'.