Conflicts, 10 Easy Tips On How To Manage Conflicts In Your Love Life And All Other Areas
Conflicts, 10 Easy Tips On How To Manage Conflicts In Your Love Life And All Other Areas. And quite frankly, no one really like to argue or love dealing with conflicts, and especially when they have to do with your love life. Because that other person is your baby, your teddy bear, your heart and your heaven, and you really just want to make love and be in love. But there are times when conflicts do arise, and it is all because you have 2 different personalities, wants and needs all constantly trying to mesh together. So what do you during this sad time?.
Well there are 10 easy things that you can do to handle the conflicts that you are faced with in any and all situations. And when there is a heated argument you must always:
01. Respect personal space
You must do your best not to get into your lover's face or anyone else for that matter while in the middle of an argument. Remember, you are trying to deescalate the situation and bring it to resolve. So stay at least 2 arm lengths and talk.
02. Do not be provocative
This is the love of your life and even though you are arguing right now, you will still be sharing the same bed later on. So do not keep provoking them by menacing them with your finger in their face or trying to find the harshest thing to say.
03. Keep verbal contact
When tempers are flaring and you want to manage the conflict, keep talking and keep encourage them to share their thought. Because 90 % of arguments are about misunderstandings. So please let them talk to get a clear understanding of where they stand.
04. Speak clearly
Or in other words say what you mean and mean what you say. And during conflict part of the brain shuts down, so you may have to repeat yourself to your lover or anyone else you're trying to deescalate the conflict with.
05. Clearly identify wants and needs
Remember your lover's needs must be met, no ifs and buts about that. Then come the wants, and those are negotiable. So make sure you clearly state what you need, and understand precisely what do they need to feel better and then the " Wants " to be in heaven.
06. You must listen
And this one thing is the number one reason couples break up during conflicts. Because one or both feel as though they will never be understood. So listen with open ears, open mind and open heart and do not feel insulted. If they did not care they would not try to speak.
07. You have to agree, or agree to disagree
This is your love and you are trying to manage this conflict, so you are either going to agree or disagree. And in your beautiful love, there is no room for break up and there are times when you two will not see eye to eye right away. So respect each person's opinion.
08. Lay down the law.
Apparently someone has done wrong, so there has to be a connections between behavior and consequences. But let " Break Up " be only the very last consequence, and use other penalties first when you are managing conflicts. Same for a business partner or others.
09. Do give choices
Never, ever corner people, because anyone cornered will fight to their last breath. For even in wars, you are taught to always leave one road open so the enemy can escape because you do not want martyrs. And remember in any fight you will always lose something, though you win.
10. Debrief with others.
After any conflict or argument it is always best to speak to others and then you can see if you were wrong, or what more could be done. And it is always bad for your health when you keep things bottled up inside. You don't have to tell all your business, just the unclear parts.
So my friend, in your marriage – your love – your job – your church – your family – your friends and even on the street you will sooner or later face some kind of conflicts. And you must learn how to manage or deescalate those conflicts quickly, and if you follow these 10 easy tips you will quickly become the master of your life and environment. Dr. James Dazouloute
Well there are 10 easy things that you can do to handle the conflicts that you are faced with in any and all situations. And when there is a heated argument you must always:
01. Respect personal space
You must do your best not to get into your lover's face or anyone else for that matter while in the middle of an argument. Remember, you are trying to deescalate the situation and bring it to resolve. So stay at least 2 arm lengths and talk.
02. Do not be provocative
This is the love of your life and even though you are arguing right now, you will still be sharing the same bed later on. So do not keep provoking them by menacing them with your finger in their face or trying to find the harshest thing to say.
03. Keep verbal contact
When tempers are flaring and you want to manage the conflict, keep talking and keep encourage them to share their thought. Because 90 % of arguments are about misunderstandings. So please let them talk to get a clear understanding of where they stand.
04. Speak clearly
Or in other words say what you mean and mean what you say. And during conflict part of the brain shuts down, so you may have to repeat yourself to your lover or anyone else you're trying to deescalate the conflict with.
05. Clearly identify wants and needs
Remember your lover's needs must be met, no ifs and buts about that. Then come the wants, and those are negotiable. So make sure you clearly state what you need, and understand precisely what do they need to feel better and then the " Wants " to be in heaven.
06. You must listen
And this one thing is the number one reason couples break up during conflicts. Because one or both feel as though they will never be understood. So listen with open ears, open mind and open heart and do not feel insulted. If they did not care they would not try to speak.
07. You have to agree, or agree to disagree
This is your love and you are trying to manage this conflict, so you are either going to agree or disagree. And in your beautiful love, there is no room for break up and there are times when you two will not see eye to eye right away. So respect each person's opinion.
08. Lay down the law.
Apparently someone has done wrong, so there has to be a connections between behavior and consequences. But let " Break Up " be only the very last consequence, and use other penalties first when you are managing conflicts. Same for a business partner or others.
09. Do give choices
Never, ever corner people, because anyone cornered will fight to their last breath. For even in wars, you are taught to always leave one road open so the enemy can escape because you do not want martyrs. And remember in any fight you will always lose something, though you win.
10. Debrief with others.
After any conflict or argument it is always best to speak to others and then you can see if you were wrong, or what more could be done. And it is always bad for your health when you keep things bottled up inside. You don't have to tell all your business, just the unclear parts.
So my friend, in your marriage – your love – your job – your church – your family – your friends and even on the street you will sooner or later face some kind of conflicts. And you must learn how to manage or deescalate those conflicts quickly, and if you follow these 10 easy tips you will quickly become the master of your life and environment. Dr. James Dazouloute
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