Dating Professionals - Parents and Your Love Life
We’ve all heard this before from our parents, “So when are you going to get married, huh? What’s taking you so long?” Now that you finally found someone special and are in a dating relationship, your parents are still being nosy and asking questions and handing out their criticisms of our partner. Is this a healthy place to be in? No, it’s not, so you need to free yourself from your parents’ control and incessant prying and live your life for you. However, depending on the specific situation, it’s not always so easy to get that freedom that you so rightly deserve.
There are different categories of parents. Some are highly controlling, some are nosy, some ambivalent or neutral some just don’t care and others are mature and loving. In order to handle your parents in the correct way, as a dating professional, you need to first figure out which category they belong to. If your parents are controlling, this will be the most difficult type to deal with. Obviously, they have tried to control your whole life from day one and if you ever veered off the path, they were quick to rein you in and when you ever voiced and opinion other than the right one, theirs, they were quick to try to put a guilt trip on you. This will have caused you to grow up with a sense that you felt that you had no freedom in life and you were always going to be controlled by your parents, unless you somehow were able to break free. The only way to break free is to just do it. You need to take that leap of faith, forget about the possible ensuing conflicts that could arise and take a stand against your parents. There is no doubt, that there will be conflict and your parents will be angry with you and most likely will try to put more guilt trips on you. However, you need to remain strong, stick to your instincts and hold fast; when your parents see how committed you are to standing on your own two feet, it’s highly possible that there will be a reconciliation between you and your parents.
If your parents are nosy, this is not the worst possible scenario when it comes to your love life, but it can be quite annoying. As a dating professional, you need to make your opinions known, in a nice way, that you don’t want them to be poking their nose into your business. Obviously, this has been happening to you your whole life, and unless your parents want to, they will not change; but there is hope, you just need to be firm in your stance on this issue and explain to your parents that unless they stop being so nosy, you are going to cut them off from your life for a while until they can get the point. Just always be polite and walk in a loving attitude and hopefully, they will come around.
If your parents are ambivalent or neutral when it comes to your life, then they have been just that; basically neutral with conflicting feelings. Mostly you’ve probably not had much interference in your life, but there could have been times that you have had it. Your parents are likely on the fence when it comes to your love life and as a dating professional, you will not have to fend them off, but rather try to find ways to invite them into your life to try to enjoy it with you.
If your parents just don’t care and never have, then you have two choices. You can leave the relationship between you as it always was and they won’t be trying to interfere in your love life; or you can try to get them to be interested in your life. As a dating professional, you need to deal with your past anger towards your parents for their lack of interest in your life and you then need to forgive them and then move forward to a new day with your dating partner. If you try and your parents still are not interested in being a part of your current life, then it’s their loss and not yours.
If your parents are the mature and loving kind, then you have the easiest job of all; you just need to continue to grow in your current relationship. Your parents will have raised you to be a mature, well-adjusted adult and they will most likely not be prying into your love life and you will have a good time with your dating partner and be able to get along with your parents as a positive outside influence on your life together with your partner.
There are different categories of parents. Some are highly controlling, some are nosy, some ambivalent or neutral some just don’t care and others are mature and loving. In order to handle your parents in the correct way, as a dating professional, you need to first figure out which category they belong to. If your parents are controlling, this will be the most difficult type to deal with. Obviously, they have tried to control your whole life from day one and if you ever veered off the path, they were quick to rein you in and when you ever voiced and opinion other than the right one, theirs, they were quick to try to put a guilt trip on you. This will have caused you to grow up with a sense that you felt that you had no freedom in life and you were always going to be controlled by your parents, unless you somehow were able to break free. The only way to break free is to just do it. You need to take that leap of faith, forget about the possible ensuing conflicts that could arise and take a stand against your parents. There is no doubt, that there will be conflict and your parents will be angry with you and most likely will try to put more guilt trips on you. However, you need to remain strong, stick to your instincts and hold fast; when your parents see how committed you are to standing on your own two feet, it’s highly possible that there will be a reconciliation between you and your parents.
If your parents are nosy, this is not the worst possible scenario when it comes to your love life, but it can be quite annoying. As a dating professional, you need to make your opinions known, in a nice way, that you don’t want them to be poking their nose into your business. Obviously, this has been happening to you your whole life, and unless your parents want to, they will not change; but there is hope, you just need to be firm in your stance on this issue and explain to your parents that unless they stop being so nosy, you are going to cut them off from your life for a while until they can get the point. Just always be polite and walk in a loving attitude and hopefully, they will come around.
If your parents are ambivalent or neutral when it comes to your life, then they have been just that; basically neutral with conflicting feelings. Mostly you’ve probably not had much interference in your life, but there could have been times that you have had it. Your parents are likely on the fence when it comes to your love life and as a dating professional, you will not have to fend them off, but rather try to find ways to invite them into your life to try to enjoy it with you.
If your parents just don’t care and never have, then you have two choices. You can leave the relationship between you as it always was and they won’t be trying to interfere in your love life; or you can try to get them to be interested in your life. As a dating professional, you need to deal with your past anger towards your parents for their lack of interest in your life and you then need to forgive them and then move forward to a new day with your dating partner. If you try and your parents still are not interested in being a part of your current life, then it’s their loss and not yours.
If your parents are the mature and loving kind, then you have the easiest job of all; you just need to continue to grow in your current relationship. Your parents will have raised you to be a mature, well-adjusted adult and they will most likely not be prying into your love life and you will have a good time with your dating partner and be able to get along with your parents as a positive outside influence on your life together with your partner.
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