Background Reports - Before the First Date Or Before It"s Too Late?
Should you run a background report before a first date second date or perhaps a third date? It's my opinion that a full detailed background report should be run on any potential mate.
But the real question is when should you run it.
Before that first date or early in a casual dating relationship? There are many things that can be uncovered right away in a background report before the first date.
Are they lying about their age? Marital status, finances? Aren't these very important issues to know about a person before considering a date? Aren't they full blown deal breakers? Most people would not consider dating another person if they are married.
No one wants to begin a dating relationship with someone that is a liar.
A basic background report can quickly uncover these things for less that the cost of a new dress or getting your hair and nails done.
But how about a criminal record? Would you even consider a first date with a person that is a convicted child molester or rapist? Of course not.
No one would.
But a person who has committed those kinds of crime will most likely conceal it from others and not broadcast it before a first date.
How would you know unless you run a background report? Today many people will find their dates from the Internet.
They may have a profile on Myspace or Friendster or Facebook.
They may also be registered to online dating services.
This can be a double edged sword.
While it's a nice easy way to browse pictures and profiles to find a companion it's also a convenient way for a stalker or con artist to target their next victim.
On the other hand your potential suitor may also have an online presence.
A Myspace etc.
That may be how you found him.
But do you know if he has a secret profile? One where he mentions his drug use and criminal record? Perhaps one on a homosexual site, a fetish site? How would you know unless you performed an online infidelity investigation? We have all been burned in a relationship one time or another.
Usually by becoming emotionally entangled in a relationship with a liar and a cheater.
Isn't it time to become proactive in these things? Take the time and effort to do the same due diligence you would take in hiring a maid and apply that to your potential life mate.
Wouldn't that avoid a great deal of future heartache and grief? if you plan to protect yourself with a background report make sure the PI you hire has experience in online dating investigations.
But the real question is when should you run it.
Before that first date or early in a casual dating relationship? There are many things that can be uncovered right away in a background report before the first date.
Are they lying about their age? Marital status, finances? Aren't these very important issues to know about a person before considering a date? Aren't they full blown deal breakers? Most people would not consider dating another person if they are married.
No one wants to begin a dating relationship with someone that is a liar.
A basic background report can quickly uncover these things for less that the cost of a new dress or getting your hair and nails done.
But how about a criminal record? Would you even consider a first date with a person that is a convicted child molester or rapist? Of course not.
No one would.
But a person who has committed those kinds of crime will most likely conceal it from others and not broadcast it before a first date.
How would you know unless you run a background report? Today many people will find their dates from the Internet.
They may have a profile on Myspace or Friendster or Facebook.
They may also be registered to online dating services.
This can be a double edged sword.
While it's a nice easy way to browse pictures and profiles to find a companion it's also a convenient way for a stalker or con artist to target their next victim.
On the other hand your potential suitor may also have an online presence.
A Myspace etc.
That may be how you found him.
But do you know if he has a secret profile? One where he mentions his drug use and criminal record? Perhaps one on a homosexual site, a fetish site? How would you know unless you performed an online infidelity investigation? We have all been burned in a relationship one time or another.
Usually by becoming emotionally entangled in a relationship with a liar and a cheater.
Isn't it time to become proactive in these things? Take the time and effort to do the same due diligence you would take in hiring a maid and apply that to your potential life mate.
Wouldn't that avoid a great deal of future heartache and grief? if you plan to protect yourself with a background report make sure the PI you hire has experience in online dating investigations.
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