How To Approach Women The Right Way - What Most Guys End Up Doing Wrong!
When you approach a woman, in the simple act of walking up to her, lots of little things are already happening. It might seem like nothing, but if you make the wrong impression on a woman as you approach her, you can end up basically ending any chance that you might have had in building a really strong amount of attraction with her. I don't say this to make you get nervous about approaching a woman, but to point out where most guys seem to go wrong.
Here's what most guys do wrong when they are approaching a woman:
1. They hesitate and they let her notice that they are hesitating.
Almost every guy does this at one time or another and most don't even realize what kind of an effect this can have. When you kind of lay back and hesitate and she notices, you are already giving off the signal that you are nervous or thinking too much about walking up to her. It might not seem like a big deal to you, but it does kind of take you down a notch, because it seems like you are maybe a little unconfident in yourself.
2. They approach her like they are trying to pick her up.
Some guys will disagree with this, but in my experience, women do not want to be picked up. They want to meet a guy, but they do not want to be picked up in the sense that they end up being just a conquest for the night. Do you think that she spends an hour or more getting ready just so some dude in a bar can end up with her at the end of the night? Not really, she spends that time getting ready to go out with the hopes that she meets a guy who is fun to be around, confident in himself, and can make her forget about things. If things get physical or intimate at the end of the night, it's just a natural progression.
3. They don't have nothing to say beyond the opener.
Coming up with an opener, a way to start the conversation can be tough, but even when a guy has that part of the approach down, he usually does not have much after that. The opener is to get things started, it's not the whole thing. You need to be able to go beyond just using an opening line, and transition into some kind of conversation or interaction that builds attraction with her.
Here's what most guys do wrong when they are approaching a woman:
1. They hesitate and they let her notice that they are hesitating.
Almost every guy does this at one time or another and most don't even realize what kind of an effect this can have. When you kind of lay back and hesitate and she notices, you are already giving off the signal that you are nervous or thinking too much about walking up to her. It might not seem like a big deal to you, but it does kind of take you down a notch, because it seems like you are maybe a little unconfident in yourself.
2. They approach her like they are trying to pick her up.
Some guys will disagree with this, but in my experience, women do not want to be picked up. They want to meet a guy, but they do not want to be picked up in the sense that they end up being just a conquest for the night. Do you think that she spends an hour or more getting ready just so some dude in a bar can end up with her at the end of the night? Not really, she spends that time getting ready to go out with the hopes that she meets a guy who is fun to be around, confident in himself, and can make her forget about things. If things get physical or intimate at the end of the night, it's just a natural progression.
3. They don't have nothing to say beyond the opener.
Coming up with an opener, a way to start the conversation can be tough, but even when a guy has that part of the approach down, he usually does not have much after that. The opener is to get things started, it's not the whole thing. You need to be able to go beyond just using an opening line, and transition into some kind of conversation or interaction that builds attraction with her.
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