Learning to Trust Myself Part 1
I often hear people talking about how important it is to be real and authentic. So how do you be authentic when you don't even know who you are? I asked myself these questions several months ago. I tried very hard to be the upbeat, positive person that everyone seemed to like. Was that really me? Or was I trying to cover up some things about me that I knew people wouldn't like? Was I just pretending to be someone else just so they'd like me?
At the end of summer last year (2010), I felt like I was making a break through with my business and personal life, but then, that cycle of self-sabotage reared it's ugly head again. I said all those positive affirmations, I read a lot of personal development material, I went to all the empowerment workshops available, I listened to all those powerful audio programs, I created my vision board, I took action on opportunities, and I mingled and networked with only like-minded, successful people. Nothing changed - I still didn't make the breakthrough. In fact, I felt like I fell several steps backwards.
I followed what all the gurus said. I followed all their teachings. How many times have I heard the saying, "Success leaves clues"? How many times have I heard, "If you're not doing what we're saying, then you're not motivated or not really committed to your success." So I did just that - followed exactly their programs and took action on everything they said. So why didn't I make a break through? I felt so miserable at the time, and really beat myself up, thinking something was wrong with me. How many times have you felt that way? I'm sure you can relate.
Fast forward to today - I realized why it didn't work. I was listening to everyone else, instead of listening to myself. How can I be authentic, when I'm trying to be like someone else? Just because they are gurus, just because they are multi-millionaires and successful - I may want the same things, but does that mean I have to follow them? How can I be authentic, when I'm trying to be just like them - a copy cat? Yes, their strategies did make them successful, but were they the right strategies for me? My inner voice was nudging me so many times go a different direction, but I didn't listen - I followed everyone else, instead of trusting myself.
I may not be the millionaire with the fancy car and private jets. I may not even be a 6 figure earner (just yet). What I can honestly say is - I love being me! I love where I'm at! I don't care whether or not my desires manifest, because I'm already happy and have found that inner peace! That's what's important to me. True happiness does come from within. Heck, the sky could be falling down right now, but I can still be at peace and find the inner calmness. And here's the paradox - I've been manifesting more amazing things than before (sometimes instantaneously) and taking action is such a joy!
Don't get me wrong - I still listen to experts and successful people, but I only take what resonates with me and integrate that with the advice from my inner voice. This is where true empowerment lies!
Stay tuned for Part 2!!
At the end of summer last year (2010), I felt like I was making a break through with my business and personal life, but then, that cycle of self-sabotage reared it's ugly head again. I said all those positive affirmations, I read a lot of personal development material, I went to all the empowerment workshops available, I listened to all those powerful audio programs, I created my vision board, I took action on opportunities, and I mingled and networked with only like-minded, successful people. Nothing changed - I still didn't make the breakthrough. In fact, I felt like I fell several steps backwards.
I followed what all the gurus said. I followed all their teachings. How many times have I heard the saying, "Success leaves clues"? How many times have I heard, "If you're not doing what we're saying, then you're not motivated or not really committed to your success." So I did just that - followed exactly their programs and took action on everything they said. So why didn't I make a break through? I felt so miserable at the time, and really beat myself up, thinking something was wrong with me. How many times have you felt that way? I'm sure you can relate.
Fast forward to today - I realized why it didn't work. I was listening to everyone else, instead of listening to myself. How can I be authentic, when I'm trying to be like someone else? Just because they are gurus, just because they are multi-millionaires and successful - I may want the same things, but does that mean I have to follow them? How can I be authentic, when I'm trying to be just like them - a copy cat? Yes, their strategies did make them successful, but were they the right strategies for me? My inner voice was nudging me so many times go a different direction, but I didn't listen - I followed everyone else, instead of trusting myself.
I may not be the millionaire with the fancy car and private jets. I may not even be a 6 figure earner (just yet). What I can honestly say is - I love being me! I love where I'm at! I don't care whether or not my desires manifest, because I'm already happy and have found that inner peace! That's what's important to me. True happiness does come from within. Heck, the sky could be falling down right now, but I can still be at peace and find the inner calmness. And here's the paradox - I've been manifesting more amazing things than before (sometimes instantaneously) and taking action is such a joy!
Don't get me wrong - I still listen to experts and successful people, but I only take what resonates with me and integrate that with the advice from my inner voice. This is where true empowerment lies!
Stay tuned for Part 2!!
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