Have you been catching yourself thinking about your ex boyfriend lately? The break up happened weeks or months ago and you thought you've already moved on. But as you pass by that little coffee shop you used to frequent together all the emotions came pouring back in and you found yourself saying, "I am still in love my ex boyfriend".

There are many women out there who are thinking the same thoughts. They are still expecting and still helplessly hoping to bring the love and life that used to be theirs. You don't know it yet but even though things are complicated, hopeless and some what hard to recover it doesn't mean that there isn't any.

There is still a glimpse of chance that you could get back together with your ex boyfriend. When you are saying "I think I'm still in love with my ex" and you are determined to turn back the time, remember one thing, be careful. Be prepared to accept what consequences you get if you start taking the steps toward reconciliation. You would not want to get hurt again and end up left alone again by the same guy.

You can only prevent this from happening by making the necessary changes and tweaks that might have led to your break up.

1. Think and analyze every mistake that has been made in the past and try to figure out not only why they happened, but also why they've caused a great impact on your relationship. This time, your goal is to build a stronger foundation of your relationship than you had in your past life together.

You have to start from nothing, from its very beginning or shall we say ground zero. If you want to get back together with your ex boyfriend, you are going to try and start all over. Watch every step you make. And come up with a conclusion that you want your relationship to be better than before."

2. The next natural step before you can win your lover back, is to also bring back your renewed friendship. Don't be in a haste. Getting back together with you may be the last thing on his mind so if your ex boyfriend starts to feel that you are trying to bring back your old relationship this will send him warning signals and will make things harder for you.

Don't hurry love, just go with the flow and you'll get there inch by inch. Pray for patience. It is going to be worth the wait. If both of you are destined to be together, destiny will find the way, it will happen better that you expected. Just let it be natural.

3. Try to erase all negative feelings and thoughts. Always think that everything will be just fine. Don't ever let your guy see you crying or down in the dumps. You have to try look like you are a joy to come back to. If he sees you hopeless and depressed, he will also see you as a burden.

Do you think your boyfriend would like to spend his life with someone like you right now? A person who is depressed and lifeless? Your ex would like a person that is fun to be with and could bring him enthusiasm back to his life. Personally, which do you prefer to be with?

People also want to be with someone who could make them feel that they have a purpose in the other person's life. They want someone whom they can get along with despite the differences. Use your break up time to achieve a personality that can make someone feel like that. Be a friend to him and make him feel special. In the end, he will be surprised to find himself saying, "I am still in love with my ex".