The beginning of every habit can be compared to an invisible thread, but every time we repeat the act we strengthen the strand, add to it another filament until it becomes a great cable and binds us irrevocably through and act.
So if we want to change our behavior, there is only one way to do it: we must link unbearable and immediate sensations of pain to our old behavior, and incredible and immediate sensations of pleasures to a new one.
Think about it this way - all of us through the experience of life, have learned certain patterns of thinking and behaving to get ourselves out of pain and into pleasure.
We experience emotions like boredom, frustration, anger, feeling overwhelmed and develop strategies for ending these feelings.
Some people use shopping, some use food, some use sex, some use drugs, some use alcohol, some use yelling at their kids.
They know consciously or unconsciously that this neural pathway will relieve their pain and take them to some level of pleasure in a moment.
Whatever the strategy, if we are going to change we have to go through six simple steps, the outcome of which is to find a more direct and empowering way to get out of pain and into pleasure, ways that will be more effective and elegant.
These six steps of neuro associative conditioning will show how to create a direct highway out of pain and into pleasure.
1.
Decide what you really want and what is preventing you from having it.
2.
Associate massive pain to not changing now and massive pleasure to the experience of changing now.
3.
Interrupt the limiting pattern.
4.
Create a new empowering alternative.
5.
Condition the new pattern until it is consistent.
6.
Test it.