NO! Say It Loud, Say It Proud
I have always had a difficulty saying "no" especially when people are in their best behavior just to make me say "yes" in return. There is nothing wrong in helping other people especially if they have done the same thing for you in the past. We are made to believe that a "yes" is regarded as a positive feedback, and a "no" is a negative feedback, sure, but not all the time they mean that way.
There are times when it is best for you to just say no. Let me tell you the story my friend Cameron who loves to say yes. People love her because of her desire and willingness to extend a helping hand in times they need her the most. She will definitely make time for you, all you have to do is ask. She doesn't fail in pleasing other people, but deep inside she's nothing but tired. Most of the time she puts her own work and tasks in jeopardy because she was busy helping others mainly because she just can"t say no. Look into some of these steps and know how to manage and strengthen your "NO!"
Analyze your no
Take some time to carefully think about the request for a moment; analyze every angle and every possibility of the request. Will you be disturbed with the request? Will it hurt you in case you fulfill the request? Ultimately, think about the sacrifice that is required for you to make in doing it. If it is not so much of a bother, then do it, but if the request seems to be too massive to spend your time or your money with, then slap them with a hard and irrevocable NO!
Say no to the request not to the person
Saying no doesn't mean that you are declining the person, just the request. Make the person feel that you respect him and you recognize him; it's just that you can't pursue his request right now because you yourself have too many things to accomplish. There is a certain scenario when my friend was bugging me to lend him money just so he can purchase the latest gadget released recently. I did not lend him the money because I believe that there is a more important purpose for my money like investing it for a business or adding it for my house building fund.
Gather your courage
Saying no is not as easy as it may look like; it requires a considerable amount of courage and will power to turn down a favor or a request. Shoving up a big fat "no" to your friend is so hard especially if he starts to use his puppy eyes on you unless you are not face to face if the request was sent just through a text message via your smartphone, then it would be easier. But that's the reality of life, sometimes you get what you want, most of the time you don't.
Saying no is not always such a bad thing. If you are used to always saying yes, it's time to weigh your options and try to analyze if it's not so much of a bother for you yet.
There are times when it is best for you to just say no. Let me tell you the story my friend Cameron who loves to say yes. People love her because of her desire and willingness to extend a helping hand in times they need her the most. She will definitely make time for you, all you have to do is ask. She doesn't fail in pleasing other people, but deep inside she's nothing but tired. Most of the time she puts her own work and tasks in jeopardy because she was busy helping others mainly because she just can"t say no. Look into some of these steps and know how to manage and strengthen your "NO!"
Analyze your no
Take some time to carefully think about the request for a moment; analyze every angle and every possibility of the request. Will you be disturbed with the request? Will it hurt you in case you fulfill the request? Ultimately, think about the sacrifice that is required for you to make in doing it. If it is not so much of a bother, then do it, but if the request seems to be too massive to spend your time or your money with, then slap them with a hard and irrevocable NO!
Say no to the request not to the person
Saying no doesn't mean that you are declining the person, just the request. Make the person feel that you respect him and you recognize him; it's just that you can't pursue his request right now because you yourself have too many things to accomplish. There is a certain scenario when my friend was bugging me to lend him money just so he can purchase the latest gadget released recently. I did not lend him the money because I believe that there is a more important purpose for my money like investing it for a business or adding it for my house building fund.
Gather your courage
Saying no is not as easy as it may look like; it requires a considerable amount of courage and will power to turn down a favor or a request. Shoving up a big fat "no" to your friend is so hard especially if he starts to use his puppy eyes on you unless you are not face to face if the request was sent just through a text message via your smartphone, then it would be easier. But that's the reality of life, sometimes you get what you want, most of the time you don't.
Saying no is not always such a bad thing. If you are used to always saying yes, it's time to weigh your options and try to analyze if it's not so much of a bother for you yet.
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