“I want to know how to get my ex boyfriend to want me back.” That’s one of the most common phrases women find themselves saying after they’ve gone through a break up with a man they’re still in love with. Many well meaning people will tell you that once a man has dumped you it’s time to pick up your self esteem and move on to find someone who really appreciates you. The truth is that we all make mistakes and the break up may just be a mistake on the part of your boyfriend. Countless couples get back together after a split and go on to have long term, deeply committed and loving relationships. If you want him back, don’t listen to anyone who tells you it’s not possible. As long as you understand the proven methods to get him back you can have that second chance with him that you so desperately want.

Learning how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back starts with recognizing the power of maturity. Whenever we feel something slipping away that we desperately love we panic. When that panic sets in it can cause us to act irrationally. It’s very common for a woman to call her ex boyfriend crying and pleading with him to take her back. In our eyes this is a romantic and endearing gesture. We just imagine what it would feel like if we were the ones on the receiving end of a call in which our boyfriend proclaimed his undying love while he’s in tears. He doesn’t view it the same way though. If you call your ex while you’re upset, he’ll label you as emotionally unstable and desperate. The number one rule you need to follow if you’re committed to getting him back is to control your emotions. It’s vitally important.

We need to be close to a man in order to fall in love with him. We love that connection we feel when the relationship starts to grow and blossom. Men actually fall in love and back in love with women in a little different way. When a man feels longing for a woman he starts to feel love for her. That’s why, in the early stages of most relationships, the man will often call the woman to tell her he misses her. He does and it’s making him fall in love. You need to create that same feeling in your ex boyfriend now. You may think that talking to him as often as possible is the best way to get him back, but it’s not. You have to actually distance yourself from him if you want him to desire you again. Help him see that there’s a void in his life that only you can fill. You can only accomplish this by disappearing for a few weeks. If you can do this, you’ll actually stand a much better chance of a future with the man you adore.