How do I Know if My Ex Was the Right Guy?
Sometimes, while you're in a relationship, it's hard to see just how great things are. It takes walking away and experiencing time apart to see how great things really were.
It's perfectly normal to have second thoughts about breaking up with your ex. Once the volatile emotions of the end of the relationship die down, it's easier to see the good times you had together for what they were. More importantly, it's easy to start to miss those good times too.
What you want to know is whether or not you can trust your second thoughts. You're wondering "How do I KNOW if my ex was the right guy for me?"
There's bad news and then there's good news on that front.
The bad news is that Mr. Right doesn't come carrying a sign. At least not in the real world. Your Prince Charming may really be an ogre. He may even be a donkey. Well you get the picture. He might not look the way you expected Mr. right to look but that doesn't always make him Mr. Wrong.
The good news is that you can usually search your heart for a pretty good idea of whether or not he's "right" enough for you.
Here is the number one question you can ask yourself in order to help you decide whether this might be your prince or if he's just another toad.
How does he make you FEEL when you're together?
Love is all about emotion. In the beginning he probably went out of his way to let you know how much he appreciated the effort you went through in order to look good for him. He probably complimented you for your cooking and even acknowledged that you went out of your way to make sure he had the kind of beer he prefers on hand.
In other words, he made YOU feel special and APPRECIATED! How long has it been since you felt that he really appreciated all the things you did for him? Was that part of the problem near the end?
Couples often reach a stage, not too far after the "honeymoon" period when they are comfortable with one another. This is when you stop dressing up for every date. It's when you let him see you without makeup. You've stopped laughing long and hard at his not-so-funny jokes and you may even be confident enough that you're not grabbing his arm and shooting daggers with your eyes at every woman who even gives him a second glance. You're not trying as hard to make a good impression and letting him see the "real" you.
He's doing the same things too. He's dropped the ball a bit when it comes to making you feel adored by him. But, when did you tell him that you NEED that from him? You have to COMMUNICATE and let him know what YOU need from him if your relationship is going to work. He can't read your mind any more than you can read his.
If you really want a second chance and believe that he really might be the right man for you then the hard part is going to be getting him to give you the time of day after you've dumped him.
It's perfectly normal to have second thoughts about breaking up with your ex. Once the volatile emotions of the end of the relationship die down, it's easier to see the good times you had together for what they were. More importantly, it's easy to start to miss those good times too.
What you want to know is whether or not you can trust your second thoughts. You're wondering "How do I KNOW if my ex was the right guy for me?"
There's bad news and then there's good news on that front.
The bad news is that Mr. Right doesn't come carrying a sign. At least not in the real world. Your Prince Charming may really be an ogre. He may even be a donkey. Well you get the picture. He might not look the way you expected Mr. right to look but that doesn't always make him Mr. Wrong.
The good news is that you can usually search your heart for a pretty good idea of whether or not he's "right" enough for you.
Here is the number one question you can ask yourself in order to help you decide whether this might be your prince or if he's just another toad.
How does he make you FEEL when you're together?
Love is all about emotion. In the beginning he probably went out of his way to let you know how much he appreciated the effort you went through in order to look good for him. He probably complimented you for your cooking and even acknowledged that you went out of your way to make sure he had the kind of beer he prefers on hand.
In other words, he made YOU feel special and APPRECIATED! How long has it been since you felt that he really appreciated all the things you did for him? Was that part of the problem near the end?
Couples often reach a stage, not too far after the "honeymoon" period when they are comfortable with one another. This is when you stop dressing up for every date. It's when you let him see you without makeup. You've stopped laughing long and hard at his not-so-funny jokes and you may even be confident enough that you're not grabbing his arm and shooting daggers with your eyes at every woman who even gives him a second glance. You're not trying as hard to make a good impression and letting him see the "real" you.
He's doing the same things too. He's dropped the ball a bit when it comes to making you feel adored by him. But, when did you tell him that you NEED that from him? You have to COMMUNICATE and let him know what YOU need from him if your relationship is going to work. He can't read your mind any more than you can read his.
If you really want a second chance and believe that he really might be the right man for you then the hard part is going to be getting him to give you the time of day after you've dumped him.
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