Which is a good way to strengthen a relationship bond: Is it being supportive during times of loss and sadness? or celebrating good news with each other? Obviously both can strengthen my relationship bond.
However the happiest pairs are those who respond positively to their partners' successes.
Why It Is So Powerful Favorable feedback validates accomplishments and it also validates our relationship by showing that we get what's important to each other.
How To Do It? These 2 Tips Would Help.
Number 1: Show Him That I'm Psyched Some victories are easy to identify, like a new job, but tiny triumphs are worth touting too.
Give him emotional applause when he mentions getting a compliment, like post-project praise from his boss.
Also, appreciate how he deals with annoying situations.
Interpersonal conflicts can be extra stressful for guys, so hearing that they handled one well can be very rewarding.
To make my response resonate beyond a pat "congrats," ask for details ("How did you find out?") or reaffirm how hard he worked on something ("Your hours of studying really paid off!").
Another way to escalate his excitement is to point out a specific trait of his that played a part ("I'm not surprised-you're so tenacious!").
Acknowledging his participation in the larger picture shows another level of understanding.
Not doing so could sabotage things.
Number 2: Get Him to Boost Me I deserve kudos too.
If my guy isn't effusive about my achievements, it could be that he doesn't know how important his support is.
So I clue him in like this: When something big is brewing, give him notice, like by counting down the days.
Or just say, "Something great happened, and I want to celebrate it with you.
" That lets him know it's a big deal.
When he does share a success, let him know the next day that I appreciated him being so happy for me.
If I say he did something right, he'll remember that and be more likely to repeat it.
I must avoid appearing needy, since most guys hate that.