Couple Split? - So What? Friendship Is Eternal!
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Yes, there are bound to be angry words exchanged during situations in a marriage that lead up to a divorce and people may say a lot of things they regret later; however, what has to be understood by couples going through a divorce is that it is easy to simply let off steam but not so easy to just let go of a sense of feeling wronged or excessive anger.
Where there is anger, there is bound to be confrontation and unnecessary recriminations follow, which are unhealthy for keeping things on a civil plane.
It is important for couples divorcing to have a support group that will keep them grounded, fair to each other and make divorce less painful to deal with than it has to be.
Try going for counseling to avoid slanging-matches in court and out of it, too.
2.
Try and undertake steps to remain or become friends with your ex so you are able to keep the channels of communication open during the divorce proceedings, can come to mature settlements on your own with least intervention from lawyers and work towards an amicable end to the marriage in a civilized and dignified way.
It also helps keep things on an even keel and costs of divorce low as things get resolved faster by maturely tackling the situation and talking it over like sensible adults with concern for the other's well being too as well as makes for a healthy parting of ways.
3.
For partners that do not know if you have been dating someone out of the marriage, do not add to their emotional burden by bringing this topic up; this will allow you to stay friends while you tell them there are issues you feel are wanting in your marriage and thus, you want out.
If deeply involved with another person, during the course of the divorce proceedings, try to keep away for as much time as possible to allow for an amicable parting of ways and faster divorce proceedings to come through.
4.
Consider enrolling for family counseling sessions with kids along so they too get someone to talk to and understand their side of the situation and have access to good advice on getting through with a stressful time in their lives, as divorce is not easy on kids either.
They should never be made to feel divorce is taking place because of them and parents must ensure they take all steps to make the kids feel secure and loved even as the mum-dad have their differences and need to lead their own lives, now.
5.
Talk to your spouse in a friendly environment such as a family room or a place outside the house with a friendly atmosphere so you can actually connect on important issues like children's custody, moving out or continuing to stay in the same house, property and finances etc.
so lawyers are least involved and getting on the defensive not necessary at all.
Allow for a sense of compromise to guide your decisions when you are talking things over with your ex on your own and make an effort to understand their viewpoint so divorce does not have to mean the end of the line for you - however, don't be a pushover when being nice either, just dignified.
Yes, there are bound to be angry words exchanged during situations in a marriage that lead up to a divorce and people may say a lot of things they regret later; however, what has to be understood by couples going through a divorce is that it is easy to simply let off steam but not so easy to just let go of a sense of feeling wronged or excessive anger.
Where there is anger, there is bound to be confrontation and unnecessary recriminations follow, which are unhealthy for keeping things on a civil plane.
It is important for couples divorcing to have a support group that will keep them grounded, fair to each other and make divorce less painful to deal with than it has to be.
Try going for counseling to avoid slanging-matches in court and out of it, too.
2.
Try and undertake steps to remain or become friends with your ex so you are able to keep the channels of communication open during the divorce proceedings, can come to mature settlements on your own with least intervention from lawyers and work towards an amicable end to the marriage in a civilized and dignified way.
It also helps keep things on an even keel and costs of divorce low as things get resolved faster by maturely tackling the situation and talking it over like sensible adults with concern for the other's well being too as well as makes for a healthy parting of ways.
3.
For partners that do not know if you have been dating someone out of the marriage, do not add to their emotional burden by bringing this topic up; this will allow you to stay friends while you tell them there are issues you feel are wanting in your marriage and thus, you want out.
If deeply involved with another person, during the course of the divorce proceedings, try to keep away for as much time as possible to allow for an amicable parting of ways and faster divorce proceedings to come through.
4.
Consider enrolling for family counseling sessions with kids along so they too get someone to talk to and understand their side of the situation and have access to good advice on getting through with a stressful time in their lives, as divorce is not easy on kids either.
They should never be made to feel divorce is taking place because of them and parents must ensure they take all steps to make the kids feel secure and loved even as the mum-dad have their differences and need to lead their own lives, now.
5.
Talk to your spouse in a friendly environment such as a family room or a place outside the house with a friendly atmosphere so you can actually connect on important issues like children's custody, moving out or continuing to stay in the same house, property and finances etc.
so lawyers are least involved and getting on the defensive not necessary at all.
Allow for a sense of compromise to guide your decisions when you are talking things over with your ex on your own and make an effort to understand their viewpoint so divorce does not have to mean the end of the line for you - however, don't be a pushover when being nice either, just dignified.
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