How to Fight Fair in Marriage? 6 Secret Techniques Which Every Happy Couple Must Know!
All married couples argue and get into fights over a myriad of issues - this is a normal part of every marriage and should come as no surprise to you if you find you and your spouse involved in a fight now and then.
What is abnormal - or what should be abnormal at least - is when that fight becomes "dirty".
This may be fighting out of bitterness, or fighting just to "win" an argument.
In any case you really need to get into the habit of fighting fair whenever you enter into an altercation with your spouse.
This article will offer you 6 secret techniques which have been proven by many couples to work.
Read on...
Secret Technique No.
1 - If It Begins to Heat Up, Break It Off! While this is difficult to do, you must learn to get into the habit of stopping that argument in its track - break it off once you begin to notice that the argument is becoming too heated.
Instead of allowing things to get out of hand, you should do something else like; going out for a walk, or taking a nap, or taking a cold shower.
Other things you may choose to do include the following; writing in your journal, going out for a game, praying, and so on.
Secret Technique No.
2 - Listen When Your Spouse Is Speaking! If you and your partner are speaking (or yelling) at the same time you (both) will not achieve anything.
What you need to do is listen when he / she is talking and encourage him / her to do likewise.
You will achieve a whole lot more, a whole less angrily, if you take turns speaking.
Secret Technique No.
3 - No Name Calling Allowed! When arguing, you must desist from calling your spouse names.
Understand this; there is always an "after" ahead - just because you are disagreeing now does not mean that you would not agree tomorrow.
Unfortunately the names you have called him / her cannot be taken back - and this may always hover between both of you in your marriage.
Secret Technique No.
4 - Forgive, Let It Go! Always be quick to forgive your spouse whenever he / she apologizes.
Make it a point of duty to be the first to let things go once an apology has been given.
If you are to blame, be quick to offer an apology yourself.
Try to NEVER hold grudges or hold things in mind - doing so will eventually cause you and your marriage a lot of harm.
Secret Technique No.
5 - Leave the Past In The Past! Never dredge up the past during fights - especially things that you know your spouse is ashamed about, or things that he / she has already apologized about.
Instead of bringing the past up you should focus on how to better the relationship from now hence.
Secret Technique No.
6 - Put Yourself First! If you simply take the above statement on face value alone, you may conclude that I am encouraging you to be selfish - but I am not.
What "put yourself first" means is this; when arguing with your partner, you should start by saying "I feel...
" or "I think...
" and NOT "You never...
" or "You always...
"! Applying the 6 techniques above today will catapult you into the league of the "happily married" and pave a way for you to finally "live happily ever after" with your partner.
What is abnormal - or what should be abnormal at least - is when that fight becomes "dirty".
This may be fighting out of bitterness, or fighting just to "win" an argument.
In any case you really need to get into the habit of fighting fair whenever you enter into an altercation with your spouse.
This article will offer you 6 secret techniques which have been proven by many couples to work.
Read on...
Secret Technique No.
1 - If It Begins to Heat Up, Break It Off! While this is difficult to do, you must learn to get into the habit of stopping that argument in its track - break it off once you begin to notice that the argument is becoming too heated.
Instead of allowing things to get out of hand, you should do something else like; going out for a walk, or taking a nap, or taking a cold shower.
Other things you may choose to do include the following; writing in your journal, going out for a game, praying, and so on.
Secret Technique No.
2 - Listen When Your Spouse Is Speaking! If you and your partner are speaking (or yelling) at the same time you (both) will not achieve anything.
What you need to do is listen when he / she is talking and encourage him / her to do likewise.
You will achieve a whole lot more, a whole less angrily, if you take turns speaking.
Secret Technique No.
3 - No Name Calling Allowed! When arguing, you must desist from calling your spouse names.
Understand this; there is always an "after" ahead - just because you are disagreeing now does not mean that you would not agree tomorrow.
Unfortunately the names you have called him / her cannot be taken back - and this may always hover between both of you in your marriage.
Secret Technique No.
4 - Forgive, Let It Go! Always be quick to forgive your spouse whenever he / she apologizes.
Make it a point of duty to be the first to let things go once an apology has been given.
If you are to blame, be quick to offer an apology yourself.
Try to NEVER hold grudges or hold things in mind - doing so will eventually cause you and your marriage a lot of harm.
Secret Technique No.
5 - Leave the Past In The Past! Never dredge up the past during fights - especially things that you know your spouse is ashamed about, or things that he / she has already apologized about.
Instead of bringing the past up you should focus on how to better the relationship from now hence.
Secret Technique No.
6 - Put Yourself First! If you simply take the above statement on face value alone, you may conclude that I am encouraging you to be selfish - but I am not.
What "put yourself first" means is this; when arguing with your partner, you should start by saying "I feel...
" or "I think...
" and NOT "You never...
" or "You always...
"! Applying the 6 techniques above today will catapult you into the league of the "happily married" and pave a way for you to finally "live happily ever after" with your partner.
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