However long you have been married, it is expected that your relationship will come across problems.
When you were still living at home, you may have witnessed your mom and dad have at it, and it could convey the impression that they have been together forever.
This scenario does not differ with newly married couples.
You will have fights, conflicts and disagreements.
That is the way it goes even if, during the early days of your married life, you felt as if you had the consummate relationship.
It is still too early in the game for you to lose faith.
You have all the odds in the world to save the relationship.
Being in a marriage for a while the best and worst in you will reveal itself.
As the relationship progresses, you will pick up on changes in your partner's character, even quirks that may get on your nervesHowever do not give up hope.
Talk about it with your partner, or you can argue about it.
Arguments are a constant chunk ofmarried life.
You have maybe seen your mom and dad argue when you were still living at home but there they are, still together after all these years.
Do not let minor irritants annoy you.
This may only add fuel to fireas these may blow up into bigger issues and may flare up into a bigger fight.
Start searching for solutions to problems while these are still insignificant as this is easierto do one's thing.
The longer you wait, the more complicated the problem becomes and the harder it will be for you to resolve this.
Then you may miss your opportunity to save the relationship.
Be conscious of the issue.
It will be simpler to thresh out the problem if you recognize this.
Arrive at not just one but numerous alternatives to resolve the issues.
Do this together with your partner.
It is only when you work together to find a solution will you gain success.
If you or your spouse needs to change to resolve the problem, make the cshanges gradually.
Communicate to each other your objectives of replacing your bad traits with good ones.
And as you bring to successful conclusion each goal, reward yourselves for this.
When you and your spouse talk about the problem, do not raise your voices.
Raising your voice may only lead to bruised feelings and anger.
Do not bring up the past.
Focus on the issues now and try to resolve these rather than harboring ill feelings about past mistakes.
The past is past and you are now aiming to move forward to save the relationship.
Forgiving each other is still fundamental.
Threshing out the problem will be futile if you are not willing to grant forgiveness.
When you let yourself be engrossed by bitterness and bad feelings, this will just result to more frustration and more problems.
Live with the fact that neither you nor your partner is perfect.
Learn to forgive past sins and strive to be better and make amends to save the relationship.
But patience is key hereForgiveness cannot be made overnight and you should allot yourself and your partner enough time to do this if you aim to save the relationship.
And last, once you are able to undertake the above, make a commitment.
Accept the aftereffect, which may be painful but inescapable.
Commit that you will not give up and do everything possible to save the relationship.