Wife Cheated on Me - More Than One Way
It's been a few years now since I first found out that my wife cheated on me.
The pain was unbearable and the divorce was savage.
Now that I can reflect on back on that dark period of my life I want to send a message to all the wives who may be thinking about or who already are cheating on their spouse.
Are you cheating on your husband? Husbands, do you suspect that your wife is having an affair? Then read how the consequences of getting caught can cause a lifetime of grief.
Hindsight is 20 -20, the beginning of the end They say that hindsight is 20 -20, and for the most part this is true.
However, I saw the writing on the wall and refused to believe what the messages were telling me.
At first the symptoms included an increase in arguments, and they progressed to conflicts that sometimes took days to get over.
My wife became less forgiving and more hostile.
At first I thought the problem was with me, yet I could not figure out what I was doing wrong to rub her the wrong way all the time.
Dwindling interest in sex The next clue that was plain as day was our dwindling sex life.
I began to notice that instead of the three or four times a week spending intimate time with my wife began to shrink to one,or if I was lucky, two times a week.
Again I thought the problem rested on me.
I tried to put some fire back into the relationship by telling her I loved her more often and sent her special gifts and love letter to no avail.
The sex just continued to be less satisfying, less intimate, and seemed to be more of a chore for my wife.
Spending more time away from home One day my wife announced that she was going to volunteer some time at a retirement center that our church sponsored.
At first I thought it was a good idea.
She had expressed her discontent at staying at home all the time.
This went on for a few months and began to increase with frequency.
Meanwhile, the arguments and the sex life got worse.
I agonized over why she wasn't happy at home any more.
She stared taking better care of herself Out of the blue my wife announced that she was going to join a health club to improve her weight.
Again, I hoped that maybe what she was unhappy about herself and not me.
I never questioned her about it even though I didn't think she had much of a weight problem.
She also spent some hard saved money on new clothing to make her "look better" in public.
I bought into it hook line and sinker, the last thing that I suspected was that my wife cheated on me.
And then it happened, a good friend of mine from church delivered the bad news that my wife cheated on me.
He explained that it had been going on for a very long time and most of the congregation new about it.
Why is it that I'm the last to know that my wife cheated on me? After getting over the embarrassment and anger at the betrayal I promptly filed for a divorce.
I was disgusted with her denials in the face of the overwhelming evidence.
My wife cheated on me in more than one way, she also stole my self respect, and took advantage of my unbridled trust in her.
The pain was unbearable and the divorce was savage.
Now that I can reflect on back on that dark period of my life I want to send a message to all the wives who may be thinking about or who already are cheating on their spouse.
Are you cheating on your husband? Husbands, do you suspect that your wife is having an affair? Then read how the consequences of getting caught can cause a lifetime of grief.
Hindsight is 20 -20, the beginning of the end They say that hindsight is 20 -20, and for the most part this is true.
However, I saw the writing on the wall and refused to believe what the messages were telling me.
At first the symptoms included an increase in arguments, and they progressed to conflicts that sometimes took days to get over.
My wife became less forgiving and more hostile.
At first I thought the problem was with me, yet I could not figure out what I was doing wrong to rub her the wrong way all the time.
Dwindling interest in sex The next clue that was plain as day was our dwindling sex life.
I began to notice that instead of the three or four times a week spending intimate time with my wife began to shrink to one,or if I was lucky, two times a week.
Again I thought the problem rested on me.
I tried to put some fire back into the relationship by telling her I loved her more often and sent her special gifts and love letter to no avail.
The sex just continued to be less satisfying, less intimate, and seemed to be more of a chore for my wife.
Spending more time away from home One day my wife announced that she was going to volunteer some time at a retirement center that our church sponsored.
At first I thought it was a good idea.
She had expressed her discontent at staying at home all the time.
This went on for a few months and began to increase with frequency.
Meanwhile, the arguments and the sex life got worse.
I agonized over why she wasn't happy at home any more.
She stared taking better care of herself Out of the blue my wife announced that she was going to join a health club to improve her weight.
Again, I hoped that maybe what she was unhappy about herself and not me.
I never questioned her about it even though I didn't think she had much of a weight problem.
She also spent some hard saved money on new clothing to make her "look better" in public.
I bought into it hook line and sinker, the last thing that I suspected was that my wife cheated on me.
And then it happened, a good friend of mine from church delivered the bad news that my wife cheated on me.
He explained that it had been going on for a very long time and most of the congregation new about it.
Why is it that I'm the last to know that my wife cheated on me? After getting over the embarrassment and anger at the betrayal I promptly filed for a divorce.
I was disgusted with her denials in the face of the overwhelming evidence.
My wife cheated on me in more than one way, she also stole my self respect, and took advantage of my unbridled trust in her.
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