"A truly good wife is the most precious treasure that a man could find!" Proverbs 31:10 1.
Tell him you love him frequently.
Surprise him by leaving love notes in his lunch bag or maybe on the seat of his car.
Be imaginative and creative when you impart your love.
Love is an action word and it calls for movement.
Share with him that not only do you want to be his companion, but his lover and best friend.
Tell him how important he is to you each and every day.
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Spend quality time together.
Make pleasurable plans for the weekend.
If you have children, get a babysitter and make the weekend all about him.
Have breakfast together.
Purposefully make time to just sit and talk.
Be totally connected to him by listening carefully with your ears and eyes.
Sometimes having some shoulder-to-shoulder activities together, without having to talk, is also relaxing.
Maybe go for a quiet walk on the beach together.
From time to time he may like to just enjoy your companionship, without conversation 3.
Acknowledge his areas of interest.
Always let him know that you appreciate him because of who he is by expressing specific reasons.
Be his "pillar of support" by finding ways to uplift him and applaud him for his success as a leader, husband, father, role model, business man, and all other aspects of his life.
Do things together that he enjoys, even if it's not your favorite thing to do.
Remember, it cannot always be all about you.
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Give up control to eliminate power struggles.
Stop controlling your husband's life.
If you find yourself telling your husband what to do, what to wear, what to eat, how to look, where to work, and even deciding who his friends should be, STOP! You cannot be the boss of him and expect him to not become resentful.
Recognize that when you begin to feel the desire to control him, you may be dealing with some internal fears that have nothing to do with the matter at hand.
Write down a few situations where you found yourself controlling your husband.
For each situation, ask yourself what were you afraid of? Was losing intimacy worth your need to control? "When a man does not feel loved just the way he is, he will either consciously or unconsciously repeat the behavior that is not being accepted.
He feels an inner compulsion to repeat the behavior until he feels loved and accepted.
"-John Gray 5.
Communicate with love.
Speak to your spouse with respect and relevance.
Always speak in the affirmative.
Express your true feelings even if it's a sensitive subject.
Never assume your spouse can read your mind and know how you feel.
You must open your heart and tell the unspoken truth.
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Give him space and time to be alone.
Personal quiet time is necessary for self-development.
At times when his mind is clouded and filled with distractions, do not crowd or badger him.
Give him space and time to think things over and recover.
After coming home from a long day at work, he would appreciate a little time to unwind from his day.
Refrain from being that wife who starts complaining about her day and demanding his immediate attention as soon as he walks through the door.
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Do not give societal and religious matters more significance than your spouse.
God gave you himself first, your spouse second, and everything else must come after.
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Never forget the reasons why you married him.
Keep these reasons paramount in your mind and share those with him from time to time.
Differences and disagreements will always exist.
However, you married him because he was unparalleled and different.
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Set family goals together.
Discuss specific family goals and work diligently to achieve them.
These objectives could be long or short term.
Working together to achieve such greatness will improve and strengthen your bond as husband and wife 10.
Pray for your husband.
He cannot fight in the ring and in the corner.
Pray that God leads him with a spirit of excellence and that he becomes a pioneer in his home and community.
Do not promulgate pressure on him.
Pray with him and for him, so that he will enjoy God's best throughout his life.