So, your husband will not have sex? How could that be? You thought that was one of the strongest driving forces in his life.
You thought you would be the one having that problem.
In the beginning it was not this way.
What happened? You cannot dream that you would now be making the statement: "my husband won't have sex with me anymore.
" You may be blaming yourself for this situation.
You may be wondering if he is having an affair.
Actually, the affair thing would be something to check out; however, it may not be that at all.
Here are three contributing factors to this problem when an affair is not involved: 1.
Frustration Over Another Matter Men are generally good at compartmentalizing their lives.
That is why sometimes they seem to get into very contradictory situations.
They act (genuinely, I might add) one way in one situation, and completely opposite (again, sometimes genuinely) in another situation.
It would look like that problems in one area would not spill over into another one.
While this is often true, it is not always true for men.
If he is experiencing frustration in one area of his life that is overwhelming, that frustration can affect other areas of his life.
He may not even have been able to identify that that is what is affecting his desire, or lack of it, for physical intimacy.
This may be why your husband won't have sex.
What you can do: Be understanding.
Listen.
Be empathetic.
Help him relax.
Don't add to outside stress.
2.
Self-Conscious of Own Appearance We often think of wives being self-conscious about their own appearances, and this is often true.
Sometimes the wife will not undress in front of her husband because of this.
She prefers to keep the light off during physical intimacy, yet the husband, who is often motivated by sight would prefer that it be left on.
It may be strange to the self-conscious wife, but he really likes what he sees.
If you have been leaving the light off, you might be able to trigger some things by dressing scantily and provocatively for him (and just for him, of course).
However, if you are reading this, likely you have already tried that.
Your husband may have developed a self-conscious feeling about his own appearance.
He may feel beat down-that you could not possibly find him desirable.
This might be another surprising reason that your husband won't have sex.
What you can do: Build him up.
Let him know that you admire him (where you do admire him).
Avoid pulling him down.
3.
Physical Issues The third reason, and it may be frustrating to your husband because it is something he has never experienced, may be that there are physical issues involved.
Some of the ads on TV indicate that the husband (pictured as talking to himself) needs to discuss this with his doctor.
Your husband may not need that product, but perhaps he does need to talk to his doctor.
I had a friend who went for a checkup.
The doctor came in as said, "you must get tired very easily.
" It turned out that his testosterone levels were low.
If you looked at him, you would never have dreamed that that was the case.
What can you do: Have a frank, non-threatening discussion with your husband and encourage him to see his doctor.
So, these are some reasons why, in a normal marriage, this frustrating situation can develop.
However, if you take proper action, maybe you will no longer have to say, "My husband won't have sex with me anymore.
" Warning: Just reading this article and going your own way, without any action whatsoever, will not solve the problem.
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