So you woke up one day and found that the passion that existed in your relationship was gone. It may seem like this crisis just appeared suddenly, it didn't. A crisis in a marriage relationship usually has built slowly over time; it's just that it all of a sudden hits you and sort of catches you off guard. If you're really honest though you've seen it coming for a while you just didn't want to believe it.

A lot of people who find themselves in this situation are shocked and wonder what went wrong. You're probably also wondering what you can possibly do to save your marriage.

Change as we all know is the only constant thing in this world. Life keeps changing and it is that fact that means you have a chance to change your spouse's mind and save your marriage.

Even when your spouse says "I don't love you anymore," or "I don't feel the same way I used to about you".

There is one thing that doesn't cost us anything and yet can make a world of difference in the way we or someone else feels about things, TIME. I am not saying that time heals all. I'm saying that over time we tend to see things differently. Sometimes better and sometimes worse but time combined with the right moves can have a big positive impact on the way we see things about our marriage.

Let's look at what it can do.

Give yourself time.
Although we all are looking for an instant fix it is very important that you assess certain things for yourself first. Our society is always after instant success, instant coffee, instant rice, and instant life. If things aren't quick enough we are frustrated, like, why is this computer taking so long.

But your problems didn't happen instantly and they won't be solved instantly. You need time to figure out where you are exactly right now in order to be able to move ahead. To help in this you might try asking yourself these questions.

Why did you do what you did, really?
Why did you react the way you did?
Are these ongoing problems or can you change your ways?
What are your feelings for your spouse, really?
What are you really looking for in a marriage?
Do you really want your spouse back? Why?

These questions, and there are many more, sound simple but they really are complex and have many different aspects to them. As such, you need to really be true to yourself and think through all the different aspects before you come to any conclusions.

Give your spouse time.
Time cannot make offences disappear into thin air but it can help us deal with the pain. As a result you need to also give your spouse the time and space they need to come to terms with things. Your spouse needs to also figure out how they feel about your situation and their life in general. Pushing your spouse into making a decision will be counterproductive.

Try and put yourself into your spouse's shoes. What would you be looking for from your spouse in order to accept them back? Be honest here. Your immediate answer might be nothing really but think of a time when someone did you wrong (stole from you, offended you, and stabbed you in the back at work). What was your reaction? I bet it wasn't O nothing. Just saying I'm sorry doesn't always work does it? However, by putting yourself in your spouse's shoes you will hopefully see things clearer and you can start finding ways to address their issues with you.

Now, while you are giving your spouse time, gently remind them, by your actions, of the person they fell in love with in the first place. If your spouse loves to laugh, bring some humor into your conversations and let her see the person they fell in love with.

Know this that if you are truthful wanting to save your marriage and you help your spouse see how great your marriage could be again, everything will be worth all the time and effort won't it?